Pretty sure we're not even supposed to be having this conversation...
Honestly? If a Staff or Admin comes in here and tells us to stop talking about this then consider this post my farewell to Iwaku post.
I outright refuse to stay on a site where authority can't at least be criticized.
That just shows to me they have serious power/authority/control issues, and by using to prevent people from disagreeing it only snowballs into rather abusive uses of power.
And, when someone (meeee) pointed out the error of your ways in a calm and friendly way, trying to help you, you were able to improve.
Thanks for that again by the way. :)
No one was trying to help you.
Well... That get's a little complicated. :/
First off part of the reason you managed to get through to me was also timing.
Both in the sense of getting me in a more receptive moment, and after I'd been desperately banging my head against a wall for a while so I was starting to get tired.
Then there's the whole "I'm helping but not really" crowd.
By this I'm talking about those who help because they want to look/feel good. Pat themselves on the back as being "The guy who helped".
But the issue is these people going into it without patience, because they're looking for the good guy gratification.
So when the person start's arguing/going back and fourth they'll give up and leave.
And I guarantee you that when you talked to me I didn't just nod and go "Eureka!" instantly. There was a lot of back and fourth of me questioning you as to "Why".
Even with the Public posts I was noticing that. They were very good posts... But they didn't get much follow up, if it didn't work they just gave up on it.
And yes a lot of Individuals were helping, but I'm not sure if there was an individual was doing it consistently.
And to compare that to us on the Guild, that be as if you sent me one PM, left it at that, then Brovo sent one, left it at that, etc.
Yes I'm technically getting a lot of help, but there's no basis of an individual person willing to tough it out and say "I'm there for you".
And personally? If that's how it was for me on the Guild my response would have been "Fuck you guys, no one seems to truly care".
And honestly, back on the Guild I can actually point at a few others who did attempt to help.
Doivid, Scribz, Hell even Brovo etc. But they came in briefly, and then gave up when it wasn't an instant turn around.
Who knows how many PM conversations there could've been??
Personally I explain that to a culture difference between the two sites.
The Guild, very rarely did someone try to help another publicly. They were very, very big into cliche mentalities.
So attempts to help others were almost always private, because public attempts would be scrutinized by people going "Lol! Why you helping him!?".
Iwaku though seems to have a built a much more bigger and overall community.
Like yes you get cliches still in the sense there's specialized groups, but they don't divide people the way they did on the Guild.
People are more willing to discuss this stuff open because very people are going to bump in and try to troll it off.
And if I go by the personal PM to Public count?
I only one or two cases of trying to handle something serious through PMs?
Everything else is Public.
Besides, the staff here are phenomenal. They say that banning is taken very seriously and that each ban is given tons of careful consideration, and that those members (unless they're obvious spam-bots, of course) get plenty of 2nd chances. And I trust their word on this. I seriously doubt they would've banned you, seeing just how involved they are and how much it seems that they really want to help. I trust the mods here enough that I don't doubt their decisions. And, as far as March is concerned, I definitely agree that she was past the point of help.
Eh... :/
If someone start's reporting these posts I'm likely going to get some serious shit here, but my faith in the Staff (or more specifically the Admins) method of handling bans isn't something I have that strong faith in. Mainly because everytime I ask about it I get very vague answers. "We consider a lot!", "We give them a lot of chances!".
Hell even with their reasoning for closing Iwaku to invite only the just gave answers like "We're over worked", "People aren't trained enough".
They never give any specifics on it, so you're never left knowing exactly what the issue is or what they're doing. You just have to take it at their word that their interpretation of it is the same as yours.
I mean I get why they probably do that. If they did give more specifics details then certain members might start try number crunching and trying to propose/force 'better' ways to do it.
But... I have big issues following or keeping faith in anything where I'm being feed vague and subjective information rather than anything hard and factual.
Mind you isn't me trying to claim the Staff are bad, manipulative or anything like that. I'm just noting the level of info they are willing to give doesn't really fit my comfort levels... at all.
*If you look at Akihabara's Ban, you'll notice one of the reasoning's listed is basically "Being an all around bad person!" (I'm paraphrasing here btw).
Now, he'd did a TON of truly awful things. His ban was more than justified on concrete actions and proof alone. That commentary was completely unnecessary.
And to me it kind of spelt out a sense of strong bias/vigilantism with leadership. Where they'll do things just cause they 'feel' it's right, which would also explain the vague details they often give.
Now I know you could also say "But the Guild Staff never gave any info at all!". Which is true.
But the difference is they barely did anything, period. I didn't need to worry about their details, because there was nothing they did that gave me a need to know it.
The Iwaku Staff are active enough though that the details does start to become important for me.
I specifically remember calling out Grumpy for being a bad staff member (at the time, dunno about now) just before he got banned too. Dunno what's happened with that, though. Haven't been in GC for a while now.
Grumpy's been making a bigger habit/reputation of closing threads the second they start turning to a debate and/or shit-flinging. :P
Hasn't been acting out against individual members much though.
It's almost as if Diana loosened his Muzzle for thread locking in exchange for tightening it for dealing with specific people.