You're right. I'm trying to but puzzling things together and making them work is difficult. x.x
There's no need for you to change her. I didn't say it as a way of telling you to do so. I just said what it seems like it is like in general, (considering Bard and Flynn). As Kit said, keep her as she is.
This can easily be solved. Considering what kind of personality Bart's father seems to have, he doesn't exactly seem like the most pleasant person to deal with. That alone could be reason enough for Avaon to stay the hell away from that part of the family. In fact, the brothers may have plenty of problems amongst themselves as well, though this would still need to be discussed with
@Adaon ril'Morgerard.