I hate November so fucking much.
First, there's the anniversary of my grandmother's death. Now, since she died only a month or so after I was born, I didn't know her, but her death hit my mom pretty hard, so that particular date has always, understandably, been rough in my house growing up but I could handle it.
But today? Today? Fuck man. I can't handle today.
It's been five years today since my great-Uncle's death. The grief has been building pretty heavily since the first and I can't. I can't -
In the last two years of his life, my uncle had been more of a father to me then my own had been in the nineteen before that. If it wasn't for him, I don't know what I would have done when my father fucked off, leaving me by myself and scrambling. And fuck, you want to know what the irony is?
The irony is, I have major phone anxiety. Making them, picking up, you name it. A major part of my anxiety is, when the phone rings, three things go through my head. A) Someone I love is seriously injured, B) They are seriously ill, or C) Someone I love is dead. But I was getting better and I'd woken up that morning with the thought in mind that I'd call my uncle by the end of the day, and if not then, then by the end of the week, and I'd tell him I loved him and appreciated what he'd done for me. That night, before I can make the call I get a call from my mom.
And of course, of fucking course, the first time I answer the phone without any anxiety in years, one of my top three fears has actually happened
It's not good news. I think I cried for a week straight. I didn't get to tell him I love him.
And god, it hurts so much.
Just let me sleep until December please