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mythos
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@Red Thunder
I don't agree with legal documented marriage, it has nothing to do with the number of people. I am perfectly fine if other people want to get married and don't care how many people are involved.
People have these ridiculously romanticized ideas of reality. For example, legal marriage is essentially meaningless. You can easily walk out of a marriage with no consequences. Sure, your spouse can make it more complicated if they want to. But, you can literally just walk away and ignore them, you can live in another country and have a relationship with someone else. Nothing legally forces you to love or live with your spouse. Human desire and emotion keep people together. My parents were separated (not legally separated) for 2 years, both in and out of relationships. It wasn't until they wanted to marry other people that divorce was even brought up.
Saying "be a man" is also a romanticized and archaic thing to say. Why not say, "be responsible" or "do the right thing?" What do my genitals have to do with anything? Much of what you say are all generic romanticized ideas.
I think its up to my wife to decide what is disrespectful to her and your slippery slope arguments are not based of anything concrete, you just assume that one thing leads to another. Is it wrong to watch porn if you are married? Does it lead to cheating? My wife doesn't seem to think so.
I think you are speaking from pure emotion.
@Rainforest Spirit
Obviously this is all hypothetical. I can never say exactly what I would do in the future. I can only say what I can expect or hope for. However, its not so much that I would "let" a relationship fall apart over video games. I feel my wife's lack of interest in fulfilling a desire that I have would be less rooted in her not liking video games and more in that she would not be interested in doing things to make me happy. Its just an assumption on my part, I may just become depressed and stay in an unhappy relationship. I'm not saying this is my desired outcome, I just think this is what would happen. Also, using the term marriage to bring an emotional response has the opposite effect on me. I don't need to be married to love, cherish and support. I do all that because of love alone. Telling me that you need a piece of paper to prove is counter intuitive and unromantic, to me.
I am not trying to hide the fact that responses only encourage me to further argue. I really like the attention this thread is providing and I get a real kick out of this kind of discussion. I don't want people to get the false premise that I am replying out of an emotional response.
I don't agree with legal documented marriage, it has nothing to do with the number of people. I am perfectly fine if other people want to get married and don't care how many people are involved.
People have these ridiculously romanticized ideas of reality. For example, legal marriage is essentially meaningless. You can easily walk out of a marriage with no consequences. Sure, your spouse can make it more complicated if they want to. But, you can literally just walk away and ignore them, you can live in another country and have a relationship with someone else. Nothing legally forces you to love or live with your spouse. Human desire and emotion keep people together. My parents were separated (not legally separated) for 2 years, both in and out of relationships. It wasn't until they wanted to marry other people that divorce was even brought up.
Saying "be a man" is also a romanticized and archaic thing to say. Why not say, "be responsible" or "do the right thing?" What do my genitals have to do with anything? Much of what you say are all generic romanticized ideas.
I think its up to my wife to decide what is disrespectful to her and your slippery slope arguments are not based of anything concrete, you just assume that one thing leads to another. Is it wrong to watch porn if you are married? Does it lead to cheating? My wife doesn't seem to think so.
I think you are speaking from pure emotion.
@Rainforest Spirit
Obviously this is all hypothetical. I can never say exactly what I would do in the future. I can only say what I can expect or hope for. However, its not so much that I would "let" a relationship fall apart over video games. I feel my wife's lack of interest in fulfilling a desire that I have would be less rooted in her not liking video games and more in that she would not be interested in doing things to make me happy. Its just an assumption on my part, I may just become depressed and stay in an unhappy relationship. I'm not saying this is my desired outcome, I just think this is what would happen. Also, using the term marriage to bring an emotional response has the opposite effect on me. I don't need to be married to love, cherish and support. I do all that because of love alone. Telling me that you need a piece of paper to prove is counter intuitive and unromantic, to me.
I am not trying to hide the fact that responses only encourage me to further argue. I really like the attention this thread is providing and I get a real kick out of this kind of discussion. I don't want people to get the false premise that I am replying out of an emotional response.