Wife and Video Games

@Red Thunder
I don't agree with legal documented marriage, it has nothing to do with the number of people. I am perfectly fine if other people want to get married and don't care how many people are involved.

People have these ridiculously romanticized ideas of reality. For example, legal marriage is essentially meaningless. You can easily walk out of a marriage with no consequences. Sure, your spouse can make it more complicated if they want to. But, you can literally just walk away and ignore them, you can live in another country and have a relationship with someone else. Nothing legally forces you to love or live with your spouse. Human desire and emotion keep people together. My parents were separated (not legally separated) for 2 years, both in and out of relationships. It wasn't until they wanted to marry other people that divorce was even brought up.

Saying "be a man" is also a romanticized and archaic thing to say. Why not say, "be responsible" or "do the right thing?" What do my genitals have to do with anything? Much of what you say are all generic romanticized ideas.

I think its up to my wife to decide what is disrespectful to her and your slippery slope arguments are not based of anything concrete, you just assume that one thing leads to another. Is it wrong to watch porn if you are married? Does it lead to cheating? My wife doesn't seem to think so.

I think you are speaking from pure emotion.

@Rainforest Spirit
Obviously this is all hypothetical. I can never say exactly what I would do in the future. I can only say what I can expect or hope for. However, its not so much that I would "let" a relationship fall apart over video games. I feel my wife's lack of interest in fulfilling a desire that I have would be less rooted in her not liking video games and more in that she would not be interested in doing things to make me happy. Its just an assumption on my part, I may just become depressed and stay in an unhappy relationship. I'm not saying this is my desired outcome, I just think this is what would happen. Also, using the term marriage to bring an emotional response has the opposite effect on me. I don't need to be married to love, cherish and support. I do all that because of love alone. Telling me that you need a piece of paper to prove is counter intuitive and unromantic, to me.


I am not trying to hide the fact that responses only encourage me to further argue. I really like the attention this thread is providing and I get a real kick out of this kind of discussion. I don't want people to get the false premise that I am replying out of an emotional response.
 
Trolling isn't really something that's encouraged on this site, and I'd suggest that this is getting dangerously close to that territory now with your comments about enjoying the attention. Probably for the best that we just move on and away from the topic, especially since you feel the thread has already been resolved.
 
You can easily walk out of a marriage with no consequences. Sure, your spouse can make it more complicated if they want to. But, you can literally just walk away and ignore them, you can live in another country and have a relationship with someone else.
Then why the hell did you get married.

I think its up to my wife to decide what is disrespectful to her
I really like playing coop games with girls who like girl avatars. Whenever there is a character creator, my wife makes the ugliest character possible in protest
Given that she makes ugly characters "in protest", I'd wager she considers it disrespectful.
 
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@Elle Joyner
I guess that is up to you and the mods, but I am not forcing people to respond. I didn't jump into someone else's thread and start controversy. I think that would be trolling.

@Red Thunder
I got married because my wife (girlfriend at the time) was holding me emotionally hostage. It was marriage or nothing. I didn't want to get married, but I wanted to stay with her, so I made the choice she forced me to make. Do you think it was an easy choice? I occasionally remind her of this when she tries to use our marriage as leverage to force me to do things.

No, she does it because she doesn't want to take the time to work on a character. She has expressed this to me. You are just assuming things, especially when I have already mentioned previously that this wasn't the case.
 
I'm asking that we all stop responding, as the OP has stated the issue is resolved and he no longer requires advice.

Thank you.
 
Edit: Sorry, was writing the post before OP changed the issue to resolved. GL OP.
 
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Yikes! This thread looks heated....

Well I don't have anything to say one way or the other, besides good luck. I hope you and your wife are doing alright, and can enjoy each other now and for years to come! Hobbies/interests or bust, whatever. If you two love each other, good on you! Relationships are plainly tough, people will have issues. The little issues are especially important because they can lead to bigger ones; and besides, why trust something with a big task if you can't trust them with a small one? This has nothing to do with video games, but just is general advice.

Something small irks you, talking can do wonders. Something small irks her, listening can do wonders. Communication, it can help! (yeesh, I've descended into giving advice... sorry). Ah, right! Good luck, Mythos. I wish you, your wife, and your marriage simple happiness!
 
@mythos, @Chatoyante, @Elle Joyner, @Laya, @Rainforest Spirit, @Shizuochan & @Red Thunder

Please remember that the Counselling section is meant to help members with advice, or to offer a listening ear. Not for disagreements, arguments, or to insult these who are trying to help, or are looking for help. The OP said that he talked to his wife about the matter and that it is solved, which means that this thread has served its purpose. If your post isn't geared towards giving counsel, but to criticise the person behind the screen, or just to react, then don't post, or continue to respond.