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Ragnar Lothbrok
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First time for a sort of advice seeking thing but well...how do you cope with loss? I'm not doing too well with it at the moment.
Fenix, that's what the counselling forums are for. Iwaku is meant to be a supportive community not only where members can have fun Roleplaying, but can make friends, feel safe and comfortable, and find support when they need it. Your post falls under violation of our "don't be a dick" rule, which is in place to support the kind of community I just described. It's easy to think of people on the Internet as just faceless beings, but we need to remember that every username is attached to a person with feelings and needs, and be sensitive to that when interacting with others. Please try to play nicely.Fall into oblivion. It is the only way.
Fall into oblivion. It is the only way.
There's no universal method, but here's mine if it helps.how do you cope with loss?
One of my favorite movies, how did you know?
There's no universal method, but here's mine if it helps.
Step 1: Cry. A lot. Until your body goes numb.
Step 2: After (what is likely) several minutes, your brain will eventually respond to overwhelming pain by flushing out the chemicals that make you feel sorrow. (It's a defense mechanism to prevent overdose.) At this point you should feel pretty numb.
Step 3: Find something that makes you happy, be it a movie or a game or a book. Especially if it induces fond childhood nostalgia or other such memories.
Step 4: Indulge. Right about now you'll want to eat stuff with high sugar content, it'll help you recover from the sob-fest you had earlier and will naturally cause the brain to produce serotonin (the "happy chemical" as it's informally called), which will further help.
Step 5: Go find people to talk to, which you trust, and talk about anything. Human beings are social animals regardless of whether the individual is introverted or extroverted. This is another step on the road to recovery.
Step 6: From there, continue living life, take it one step at a time until the loss is simply something you've come to accept.
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SCIENCE!
Fenix said:One of my favorite movies, how did you know?
There's no universal method, but here's mine if it helps.
Step 1: Cry. A lot. Until your body goes numb.
Step 2: After (what is likely) several minutes, your brain will eventually respond to overwhelming pain by flushing out the chemicals that make you feel sorrow. (It's a defense mechanism to prevent overdose.) At this point you should feel pretty numb.
Step 3: Find something that makes you happy, be it a movie or a game or a book. Especially if it induces fond childhood nostalgia or other such memories.
Step 4: Indulge. Right about now you'll want to eat stuff with high sugar content, it'll help you recover from the sob-fest you had earlier and will naturally cause the brain to produce serotonin (the "happy chemical" as it's informally called), which will further help.
Step 5: Go find people to talk to, which you trust, and talk about anything. Human beings are social animals regardless of whether the individual is introverted or extroverted. This is another step on the road to recovery.
Step 6: From there, continue living life, take it one step at a time until the loss is simply something you've come to accept.
EDIT
SCIENCE!
There's no universal method, but here's mine if it helps.
Step 1: Cry. A lot. Until your body goes numb.
Step 2: After (what is likely) several minutes, your brain will eventually respond to overwhelming pain by flushing out the chemicals that make you feel sorrow. (It's a defense mechanism to prevent overdose.) At this point you should feel pretty numb.
Step 3: Find something that makes you happy, be it a movie or a game or a book. Especially if it induces fond childhood nostalgia or other such memories.
Step 4: Indulge. Right about now you'll want to eat stuff with high sugar content, it'll help you recover from the sob-fest you had earlier and will naturally cause the brain to produce serotonin (the "happy chemical" as it's informally called), which will further help.
Step 5: Go find people to talk to, which you trust, and talk about anything. Human beings are social animals regardless of whether the individual is introverted or extroverted. This is another step on the road to recovery.
Step 6: From there, continue living life, take it one step at a time until the loss is simply something you've come to accept.
EDIT
SCIENCE!
Thank you. I appreciate your words.We all go through grief differently. Don't believe for a moment that you have to go through exactly what the steps of loss are in order if at all. Best advice that I can give is to reach out like you are now, and never hold back from showing an emotion. Losing someone is never easy, and I am very sorry for your loss.
Brovo basically said it all.