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You're fine, just some people misconstruing your intent.Because that was just simply the demographic I was curious about. I wasn't meaning any disrespect to anyone really. That and I (slightly) understand both gay men and woman a little more than heterosexual women). That statement was in no way intended to start a flame war. I'm trying to tread on eggshells here.
I didn't even rp while I played and I still had people act like idiots over me! They knew I was married (My husband played with me!) and they still followed me around like lost puppy dogs in game. I tried telling people that I was a guy, but some big mouth in my LS went around telling people it was a lie after he talked to me on Skype during an event. It got so bad that some idiot downloaded a mode for the game that made all the character's naked and sent me a screen shot of his character doing some not so innocent things to mine. I don't think I've ever been as freaked out in my life as I was then.....Have had people get so attached to RP characters, mainly in-game ones, WoW and Guild Wars 2, that they 'heard' my character was seen visiting another woman.
Thus began drama, their RP friends began following and spying in-game, watching when I log on, what I do, where I'm at.
Finally got tired of it and made a big show of it by gathering up as many friends with female alts and just sitting somewhere desolate writing out the most gaudy and ridiculous ERP lines we could think of while giggling like children in a voice chat server.
Oh the guild shitstorm of 'infidelity in management' and 'raunchy rumors exposed, druid going down on many partners', oh and the best; 'druid daddy busted with human harem'.
It was a nightmare logging in and expecting RP at all for a while. But hey, my druid was never want for female company with rumors of 'glorious grammar and seductive spelling'.
That's another I've started to wonder as I get more involved with RPing. I can see how, if you were young or otherwise had issues, you could blend real life and your role play. Start to take things to seriously. I mean I've had my partner throw some amazing things at me that's made me fall in love with their character and I could see how it can get creepy really fast if you're not able to sit back and realize this is just a story.I didn't even rp while I played and I still had people act like idiots over me! They knew I was married (My husband played with me!) and they still followed me around like lost puppy dogs in game. I tried telling people that I was a guy, but some big mouth in my LS went around telling people it was a lie after he talked to me on Skype during an event. It got so bad that some idiot downloaded a mode for the game that made all the character's naked and sent me a screen shot of his character doing some not so innocent things to mine. I don't think I've ever been as freaked out in my life as I was then.....
I would say it was an age/maturity issue if some of the people weren't close to my age. I mean, I know I can be funny, and there are certain parts of my personality that are appealing, but to have someone tell me they're in love with me after a month of chasing an pixelated character around....that's just plain insanity.That's another I've started to wonder as I get more involved with RPing. I can see how, if you were young or otherwise had issues, you could blend real life and your role play. Start to take things to seriously. I mean I've had my partner throw some amazing things at me that's made me fall in love with their character and I could see how it can get creepy really fast if you're not able to sit back and realize this is just a story.
Plleeeaaase tell me you reported them for harassment and modding~?!I didn't even rp while I played and I still had people act like idiots over me! They knew I was married (My husband played with me!) and they still followed me around like lost puppy dogs in game. I tried telling people that I was a guy, but some big mouth in my LS went around telling people it was a lie after he talked to me on Skype during an event. It got so bad that some idiot downloaded a mode for the game that made all the character's naked and sent me a screen shot of his character doing some not so innocent things to mine. I don't think I've ever been as freaked out in my life as I was then.....
FFXI has different rules, but I did report them to a GM and my linkshell leader. Unfortunately, he was one of the other healers (I was the main one) so he didn't get kicked out of the linkshell, but he did get a 72 hour ban and his 'girlfriend' dumped him. Seriously, why can there be nothing innocent online? My poor Nydanna was violated. ; ; She even looked tormented every time I saw her.Plleeeaaase tell me you reported them for harassment and modding~?!
That's an insta-ban too.
Um...if you're masturbating to your sex scenes in roleplays than you've definitely got more problems than cheating. To me, writing a sex scene is like reading Fifty Shades of Grey, or the equivalent to it. Words on a page do nothing for me at all, not even the imagery that comes along with it. If anything, I laugh when I write out sex scenes because the euphemisms makes me feel like I'm writing one of my grandmother's Harlequin romance novels. I don't write out a sex scene to get off, I write them out to push my character into developing in some way, whether it's developing feelings for the person their with, or to end up feeling used and degraded when things are over and done with.I'm gonna disagree with those saying it's the same as writing erotic stories and watching porn. Writing erotic RPs with someone is, to some greater or lesser extent, a sexual relationship and involvement with them. Writing/reading/watching is a solo act; it's masturbatory, and involves nobody else. When you're writing with someone else, you're involving them, there's a consciousness on the other end actively getting off (in some way or another) from their interactions with you, and you from yours with them.
Uh, I know my post was long, but I did address this already:Um...if you're masturbating to your sex scenes in roleplays than you've definitely got more problems than cheating. To me, writing a sex scene is like reading Fifty Shades of Grey, or the equivalent to it. Words on a page do nothing for me at all, not even the imagery that comes along with it. If anything, I laugh when I write out sex scenes because the euphemisms makes me feel like I'm writing one of my grandmother's Harlequin romance novels. I don't write out a sex scene to get off, I write them out to push my character into developing in some way, whether it's developing feelings for the person their with, or to end up feeling used and degraded when things are over and done with.
If the person on the other side of the screen is getting off on what I write, that's entirely on them, and as long as I don't know about it I don't really care. Is it cheating? Again, not in my eyes, because my goal is for my character, not for me, not for my partner. If you're writing to get yourself off, or get someone else off, that isn't roleplaying, that's cybering. There is a huge difference.
Of course, this only stands if A) you're getting off on it and B) your partner doesn't know about it.
Regarding A), if you're doing it for sexual gratification then my reasoning as above stands. However, if it's only happening within an established context within a longstanding story in which you're invested, well, you're not doing it for self-gratification - you're doing it as part of your plot and character development. That's reasonable; sex is a big part of people's lives. In this case, I don't feel it's much different from writing a sex scene solo within a novel or some such. Still think you should run it by your partner, but if they have a problem with it then in my opinion they're too clingy, rather than you being unfaithful in some way.
As for B), lemme put it this way: I don't think you're cheating if, say, you sleep with someone else while in an open relationship. Your partner knows about and has agreed to it, so it's not a breach of trust. The same goes in this case; if your partner knows and is cool with it, what's the problem? If they did feel uncomfortable with it, though, I would totally understand that. I don't think it's being "clingy" to not want your partner getting off through interaction with others. The point is, communication about it is the key here. And for the record, I'd probably be fine about my partner doing it as long as they told me about it, because hell, I'd trust them.