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Usually the lecturing happens because people want to "fix" rather than just listen. You know like in a sitcom where the wife just wants her husband to be there, so she spills out her problems, and instead of saying; "It's okay" he tries to form her emotions into a problem he can solve? That's where I feel lectured, in all honesty. I'm not looking for someone to fix me, and I admit most of the time they have good intentions, it's just when I'm emotional, and vulnerable...I don't want to hear; "What you need to do is X" You know tell me about doing X, when I've calmed down, I'll listen when I'm calm. A lot of it stems from my dad, he's very SJ (MBTI stuff) so he's old school, traditional, thinks his way is best, and was always trying to fix me, into the "proper" way of being, as in his way.