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Difference of opinions is one thing, but I really don't see what's wrong with deciding you can't date someone because of something they do/say that's going to bother you on a regular basis...?This thread: "GRR I WOULD NEVER DATE CUCK SCUM!"
"MENINIST DOGS! I WOULD NEVER LOVE SUCH DOGS!"
"I WOULD NEVER LOVE SOMEONE WHO IS DIFFERENT. DEATH TO THE ENEMIES OF THE HORDE!"
Meanwhile, in my head.
Have basic hygiene, give a shit about your own physical well being, be honest, and be compassionate toward me. Also, don't be a raging cunt.
Now if you will all excuse me, I am off to continue the most loving relationship I've ever had. With a Catholic. As an atheist.
As for me, the only big dealbreaker I can think of is not acknowledging mental illness as a real thing, especially in regards to ADHD. >_> I don't have a ton of experience with dating, but, if I were dating someone, I'd certainly want it to be someone who acknowledges my limitations and helps make things a little easier for me because of it, as opposed to someone who thinks that my diagnosis means nothing and that this is all "just in my head" and that I can snap out of it whenever I want. >_> It kind of has a big impact on my day-to-day life, and I don't think I could handle a relationship where my partner misunderstands me at such a level. I'd want someone that I can feel comfortable venting to about, say, not being able to concentrate on something and getting stressed out about it, as opposed to someone that I'd be hesitant to share these kinds of thoughts with because I know they're just going to roll their eyes and think I'm exaggerating a problem that doesn't exist. Even if they humor me about it, I just don't think I'd be comfortable knowing they don't really take me seriously.
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I didn't realize that just wanting to be comfortable with my hypothetical significant other makes me a close-minded person who hates all differing opinions. >_>
You found love with someone who's very different than you? That's great! I'm sure I'd be open to a relationship with someone who sees things in a different way than I do, so long as they don't cross certain boundaries that would make me not at all want to be close to them. I'm glad that you and your girlfriend are happy together, but there are certain things that some people just don't find desirable in others and that they just don't see themselves being able to make work at all. And I think that's the point behind "dealbreakers", is it not?
God, people are so awful for having things that make them uncomfortable and that would be a major turn-off in a potential partner, huh??
Maybe, since this is a "judgement free zone", we should just... respect what other people don't want in a partner?? And not imply that people are shitty just for having turn-offs???