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Though Koori has provided you members with a wonderful guide on just what to watch out for when one is dealing with a potential creeper, I feel like I should summarise her points to give you an easy overview of everything that was said and also add some of my own observations.
1.) Creepers start as nice. I know that this is not a sign that you should watch out for because there are many genuinely nice people out there. However, creepers usually use their nice behaviour to identify their victims. A nice person is interested in you as a person. A creeper is interested in you because you are a victim. A good question to ask is "Is this person trying to know me? Are they asking about my interests as well as providing information about themselves?" If the answer is no, then you likely have a creeper. If the answer is yes, then you might just have encountered a nice person. However, remain on your guard.
2.) Creepers steer the conversation towards your personal sphere if they got a grip on your personality. After a creeper has felt you out, they will start to ask questions that feel too personal or uncomfortable. They will try to steer the conversation into a direction that will satisfy them. This is one big red flag. If a person starts to ask questions that seem out of place or just plain uncomfortable, then they are creepers. Do not be afraid to call out creepers on their behaviour and outright block them.
3.) Creepers abuse people's trust. Here is the thing: as soon as warning bells have started to go off in your head about the creeper and you start being suspicious, they will start to apologise. They will say that they are "not really like that" and try to get back into your good graces. This is not the sign of a person who is legitimately feeling sorry. This is a person who is trying to suck up and place the blame on you. Normal people apologise of course, but they do not try to make it seem like it is your fault for taking their words the wrong way. Once this has happened, the person you are talking to is definitely a creeper. And you deserve better than to be exposed to them. So do yourself a favour and nuke them, severe your contact with them. You are not being a bad person if you do that. You are just protecting yourself from someone who is clearly trying to prey on you.
4.) Should the conversation continue, Creepers will try to guilt trip you again. Once again, preying on your insecurities and saying things along the lines like "I am not like that. You are too nice of a person to block me, because you know I am not like that, right?" and its infinite variations and permutations are the sign of a definite Creeper who is not worth the time. So nuke them and do not talk to them again.
A problem that I see with a lot of people who fall victims to Creepers is that they do not act on their gut feeling because they feel that they would be unpleasant people if they did not give them a chance. But this is exactly what the Creeper wants. They want you to keep giving them chances so they can convince you to tell or show them what they want. So if you feel uncomfortable when you are talking to a person, then you have every single right to block them and not to talk them anymore. It does not detract from your personal value in any way if you refuse to speak someone like that. Therefore, be confident in your gut feeling and say no.
1.) Creepers start as nice. I know that this is not a sign that you should watch out for because there are many genuinely nice people out there. However, creepers usually use their nice behaviour to identify their victims. A nice person is interested in you as a person. A creeper is interested in you because you are a victim. A good question to ask is "Is this person trying to know me? Are they asking about my interests as well as providing information about themselves?" If the answer is no, then you likely have a creeper. If the answer is yes, then you might just have encountered a nice person. However, remain on your guard.
2.) Creepers steer the conversation towards your personal sphere if they got a grip on your personality. After a creeper has felt you out, they will start to ask questions that feel too personal or uncomfortable. They will try to steer the conversation into a direction that will satisfy them. This is one big red flag. If a person starts to ask questions that seem out of place or just plain uncomfortable, then they are creepers. Do not be afraid to call out creepers on their behaviour and outright block them.
3.) Creepers abuse people's trust. Here is the thing: as soon as warning bells have started to go off in your head about the creeper and you start being suspicious, they will start to apologise. They will say that they are "not really like that" and try to get back into your good graces. This is not the sign of a person who is legitimately feeling sorry. This is a person who is trying to suck up and place the blame on you. Normal people apologise of course, but they do not try to make it seem like it is your fault for taking their words the wrong way. Once this has happened, the person you are talking to is definitely a creeper. And you deserve better than to be exposed to them. So do yourself a favour and nuke them, severe your contact with them. You are not being a bad person if you do that. You are just protecting yourself from someone who is clearly trying to prey on you.
4.) Should the conversation continue, Creepers will try to guilt trip you again. Once again, preying on your insecurities and saying things along the lines like "I am not like that. You are too nice of a person to block me, because you know I am not like that, right?" and its infinite variations and permutations are the sign of a definite Creeper who is not worth the time. So nuke them and do not talk to them again.
A problem that I see with a lot of people who fall victims to Creepers is that they do not act on their gut feeling because they feel that they would be unpleasant people if they did not give them a chance. But this is exactly what the Creeper wants. They want you to keep giving them chances so they can convince you to tell or show them what they want. So if you feel uncomfortable when you are talking to a person, then you have every single right to block them and not to talk them anymore. It does not detract from your personal value in any way if you refuse to speak someone like that. Therefore, be confident in your gut feeling and say no.