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Berry
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The entire time I've known my current boyfriend, he's been depressed. From what I can figure out, he has been for awhile now, but he has never told anyone about it so it's steadily gotten worse. Recently he finally told his family and they've been very supportive (both his brother and father have had similar issues), so now he's on antidepressants and going to a week-long therapy session next week.
My concern is that I never know what I can really do for him or how I can help him through dark areas because he's not good at confiding in people or saying what he wants. .-. I do my best to be as supportive as possible but I haven't really been in that place so I don't know what I can do that would help him.
He really doesn't like to talk about himself or his problems, but when he doesn't say anything I don't know what I'm supposed to do. >-< I really want to know what is up with him but I also don't want to make him uncomfortable so I guess it's a fine line. .-. He says that he's told me more than his parents or therapist, but from what he tells me I can't really think of ways to help? And when I press him a little bit, he just tells me that he doesn't want to worry/stress me which inevitably makes me worry/stress more.
He knows that I really want to be able to help and understand him and he tries to accommodate that, but in the end all he comes up with is "you're fine as you are/doing what you're doing". I mean I try to do as much as possible (I visit him at home when he's not allowed to come to school, I make him cards with nice messages, once I wrote a three-page letter about all the things I love about him, etc) but he's so special to me I just feel like it's not enough. >-<
Thank ya'll for any input! <3
Berry
My concern is that I never know what I can really do for him or how I can help him through dark areas because he's not good at confiding in people or saying what he wants. .-. I do my best to be as supportive as possible but I haven't really been in that place so I don't know what I can do that would help him.
He really doesn't like to talk about himself or his problems, but when he doesn't say anything I don't know what I'm supposed to do. >-< I really want to know what is up with him but I also don't want to make him uncomfortable so I guess it's a fine line. .-. He says that he's told me more than his parents or therapist, but from what he tells me I can't really think of ways to help? And when I press him a little bit, he just tells me that he doesn't want to worry/stress me which inevitably makes me worry/stress more.
He knows that I really want to be able to help and understand him and he tries to accommodate that, but in the end all he comes up with is "you're fine as you are/doing what you're doing". I mean I try to do as much as possible (I visit him at home when he's not allowed to come to school, I make him cards with nice messages, once I wrote a three-page letter about all the things I love about him, etc) but he's so special to me I just feel like it's not enough. >-<
Thank ya'll for any input! <3
Berry