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angrycactuar
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Okay so
I've been married for 2 years. When I met my husband, he was all ready friends with my sister who is a couple of years older than me. When we started dating, she started acting very strange and showed a lot of animosity, even took to sleeping with my husband's friends, which was.... weird and awkward when they bragged about it to him and then she later denied it.
ANYWAY, I married him when I was 17 and took off to a different state that night. I've lived apart from my family ever since. My parents have taken it very very well, but my sister, not so much. Every single time we get into a little bit of a tiff, she brings up that it's "so fucked up that I married a guy she had interest in, who she was friends with first and then moved away" and how "I should have found a different guy that she wasn't friends with and stayed there." or when I gush to her about how happy I am and how long we've been together, she says "well you can thank me for that because I'm the one who introduced you two." even though she didn't, we met in a video game store and he just happened to know her.
My mother has told me that my sister is still very angry about it and talks about it often, which makes me feel very uncomfortable because he's my husband, whether she approves or not. I'm in love with him and we have a wonderful life together and that's not going to change.
The weird part is, they never even dated. They talked a bit, yeah, but they never dated or told one another that they liked each other, so I'm not really sure why she's mad. I know for a fact that he never had feelings for her outside of friendship, but I don't want to tell her that and start a war.
What do I do to make my sister accept my marriage? I'm at my wit's end here, because as long as she doesn't accept it, I can never have an in-person relationship with her because she's always going to have animosity towards my relationship, which is awkward and very annoying.
I've been married for 2 years. When I met my husband, he was all ready friends with my sister who is a couple of years older than me. When we started dating, she started acting very strange and showed a lot of animosity, even took to sleeping with my husband's friends, which was.... weird and awkward when they bragged about it to him and then she later denied it.
ANYWAY, I married him when I was 17 and took off to a different state that night. I've lived apart from my family ever since. My parents have taken it very very well, but my sister, not so much. Every single time we get into a little bit of a tiff, she brings up that it's "so fucked up that I married a guy she had interest in, who she was friends with first and then moved away" and how "I should have found a different guy that she wasn't friends with and stayed there." or when I gush to her about how happy I am and how long we've been together, she says "well you can thank me for that because I'm the one who introduced you two." even though she didn't, we met in a video game store and he just happened to know her.
My mother has told me that my sister is still very angry about it and talks about it often, which makes me feel very uncomfortable because he's my husband, whether she approves or not. I'm in love with him and we have a wonderful life together and that's not going to change.
The weird part is, they never even dated. They talked a bit, yeah, but they never dated or told one another that they liked each other, so I'm not really sure why she's mad. I know for a fact that he never had feelings for her outside of friendship, but I don't want to tell her that and start a war.
What do I do to make my sister accept my marriage? I'm at my wit's end here, because as long as she doesn't accept it, I can never have an in-person relationship with her because she's always going to have animosity towards my relationship, which is awkward and very annoying.