I am also someone in the boat of loving romance in fiction but not so much in real life. Even with fiction, however, I only find a few romances interesting. If it sparks my interest, chances are that I'll become at least mildly obsessed with it. Most romances, however, I think are cringy and forced. I think of myself as a bit of a hopeless romantic with stories, but my sister insists I am not at all. We both have very different ideas of romance, though.
When it comes to real life, I've steadily begun to realize that I might not be as interested in romance as I thought, lol. It sounds nice, but whenever someone asks me out, I end up recoiling into myself. Especially when they are the type to enjoy stereotypically romantic things like flowers and expensive dinner dates. It doesn't help that I have certain traits that don't gel well with traditional couple dynamics and dating.
When it comes to romance, my main love languages are quality time and acts of service. I appreciate the small things like wanting to hang out, indulging in the same taste in media, doing tasks the other doesn't want to do... those things. All things I find in my friendships, rendering a romantic relationship to be rather unnecessary. Of course, if I were to suddenly fall in love, I wouldn't be resentful of it, lol.