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ZeAwesomeOne
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I am so tired of this crap….
So I am at a family vacation. It's been enjoyable. Got to see a really good play, see my family and what not. But my father is being a total ass and I am not sure what to do about it.
A couple of weeks ago we had a big argument. The man has always been a selfish one and has to get his way no matter what. After a stupid incident with my sister, he wanted us to come over for dinner to talk to him about what happened. I agreed to this. The day of, I am told that my sister's boyfriend is coming with us. I said if he goes I don't (this is because he is reason we were fighting in the first place and I wasn't going to go over there and tell me story just to be ganged up on by them). This lead to an argument that continued on over text messages. There has always been one thing that made me always hate my father. When I was younger he told me that I stupid fate and that I should go kill myself because I was never going to amount to anything. No one should hear that specially from your father. This drove to may first attempted suicide and to shoot my confidence like no other. Because of this new argument we were having, I decided to bring up that I was hurt by this. I thought that maybe he would see that all this crap was just hurting me more and that he would at least try to see my side of the story. After telling him the context of the time he said this (it was over the fact I couldn't go on family vacation because I had school commitments, he said he had every right to be mad about it because I choose school over family. I was in flag line and I needed to go to band cam or I would be kicked out. I worked hard for it and I made a promise to be there before her told me when the vacation was. He had no right to say those things to me no matter the reason And for a man that has abandoned event for reasons like he had a date with his girlfriend, and expected me to understand, I have had enough. So this argument made my come to the conclusion that he was never going to try to find it my way for once and that it was time to cut my losses. I disowned him.
So now we are here at my aunt's birthday party. (his sister) We have yet to say hello to each other since we first saw each other. (he was my ride for the 4 hour trip here) He avoiding me at all cost. It's making this trip very awkward and I hate it. I wish there someway to talk to him and not have him expect it to be an apology. Because I am not apologizing. I am not the one at fault here, he is. He is the one who owes me an apology.
I am just tired of this crap…
So I am at a family vacation. It's been enjoyable. Got to see a really good play, see my family and what not. But my father is being a total ass and I am not sure what to do about it.
A couple of weeks ago we had a big argument. The man has always been a selfish one and has to get his way no matter what. After a stupid incident with my sister, he wanted us to come over for dinner to talk to him about what happened. I agreed to this. The day of, I am told that my sister's boyfriend is coming with us. I said if he goes I don't (this is because he is reason we were fighting in the first place and I wasn't going to go over there and tell me story just to be ganged up on by them). This lead to an argument that continued on over text messages. There has always been one thing that made me always hate my father. When I was younger he told me that I stupid fate and that I should go kill myself because I was never going to amount to anything. No one should hear that specially from your father. This drove to may first attempted suicide and to shoot my confidence like no other. Because of this new argument we were having, I decided to bring up that I was hurt by this. I thought that maybe he would see that all this crap was just hurting me more and that he would at least try to see my side of the story. After telling him the context of the time he said this (it was over the fact I couldn't go on family vacation because I had school commitments, he said he had every right to be mad about it because I choose school over family. I was in flag line and I needed to go to band cam or I would be kicked out. I worked hard for it and I made a promise to be there before her told me when the vacation was. He had no right to say those things to me no matter the reason And for a man that has abandoned event for reasons like he had a date with his girlfriend, and expected me to understand, I have had enough. So this argument made my come to the conclusion that he was never going to try to find it my way for once and that it was time to cut my losses. I disowned him.
So now we are here at my aunt's birthday party. (his sister) We have yet to say hello to each other since we first saw each other. (he was my ride for the 4 hour trip here) He avoiding me at all cost. It's making this trip very awkward and I hate it. I wish there someway to talk to him and not have him expect it to be an apology. Because I am not apologizing. I am not the one at fault here, he is. He is the one who owes me an apology.
I am just tired of this crap…