Crushes, and being the Crushiee (That's not a word

[Grothnor]

I'm kind of pathetic, I'm 24 and still have no guts when it comes to love interests. When it comes to needing to confront someone or take charge? No problem for me.

I was about the same age when I had my issues (the one girl I almost admitted my feelings for). I've since resolved to never let my desires be unspoken again. Either they say yes and hooray! or they say no and you get some closure to the incident and move on. Either way, it's a win-win (sorta). :P

 

[Poe Dameron]

If someone admits feelings:

And the person evokes some spark, I let things go as they may.

No spark... I gently try to nudge the person towards others, hehehe

 

[Space Cowboy]

 

[ᴛᴏᴄᴋᴀ]

@The Butterfly and @Fluffy are married, and @Arcadia has a crush on somebody, and @RedWillow and @Qwertronix are married, @Greenie is married to someone, @The Mood is Write has a crush on someone, @Nydanna is married to someone, @Razilin is married to someone...

If ever there was something that could make me feel old and alone, that's it right there I think. Congrats to y'all for finding what you were looking for. I'm gonna go stare at some cat sneks and smile.

To be fair, I'm older than most of the people on this site. If I wasn't married with kids by now I'd be looking at spending the rest of my life single, and probably some crazy cat lady.

 

[Greenie]

... spending the rest of my life single, and probably some crazy cat lady.

I don't have the kids part, but pretty much the same ^_^ Though I think I'm a crazy cat lady anyway. Without the cats ;w;

 

[ᴛᴏᴄᴋᴀ]

I don't have the kids part, but pretty much the same ^_^ Though I think I'm a crazy cat lady anyway. Without the cats ;w;

I have cats, kids, and dogs. I think I must dislike having privacy. Nothing like going to the bathroom in the middle of the night and having two dogs, and a cat sitting there staring at you.

 

[Yatagarasu]

Crushing on people suuuuuuucks

Because 99.9% they don't even have the same feelings back for you.

And when I did act out on it, I either almost made a fool out of myself or didn't last very long relationship-wise. Or they disappoint me so hard to the point that I feel my heart actually shatter into pieces.

I can't even physically force myself to crush on anyone anymore. I guess that's a good thing in a way? No need to fend off unwanted feelings.

But in the off chance someone actually has a crush on me (which only happened once really), I'll probably reject them most of the time.

Because I think they deserve better.

 

[Space Cowboy]

Crushing on people suuuuuuucks

Because 99.9% they don't even have the same feelings back for you.

That's not entirely true! Not at all.

I can't begin to tell you how many times I've had old friends/crushes come back and tell me they had a crush on me, or have them admit to me they had one on me as well after I admitted to having one on them after years have passed (a few of which are on this site right now!)

Like my video above: Carpe Diem. Seize the day. You only live once, and for the shortest, most finite amount of time. Before you know it, you're in your twilight years, thinking back on what could have been. Don't put yourself through that. Put yourself in a place where you can look back fondly at all the risks you took, and over all the wonderful things that came from them, because I tell you what: You will always remember the rewards gained, and you'll never, ever, ever remember a single time you failed. Why? Because those times never mattered.

 

[Hana]

I spaz out when it comes to being the crushiee. @_@ No other two ways about it.

Just ask @Sen

 

[RoranHawkins]

As far as I know I've never been crushed but then again I'm oblivious as fuck about things and friendly enough to have people need to tell me to give people some space because I'm ruining their moments and whatnot.

About having crushes myself? Well I've had four so far. I used to just stash it away in some safe place in my mind and try to befriend them, somehow hoping they would ever notice or some perfect-freak opportunity would present itself. I used to actively look for a relationship too, and the moment I gave up on that I startd getting crushes all year-round for no good reason. Differently put, the emotional rollercoaster of getting to know my current girlfriend :D

I ended up telling each and every single one of them about my feelings at some point and I was politely rejected at one occasion, chose not to pursue it myself at two occasions because said person already was in a relationship (with much gut-wrenching self-pity ensuing for months as per standard procedure) and a fourth time because I already was in a relationship myself. The last time I ended up telling both my girlfriend and the girl involved of my crush on the other girl and I just went full-out brutal honesty. It ended up working out perfectly fine and all that though. Currently still in a relationship with crush no. two who I met on the roleplayerguild..

 

[Kestrel]

What happens when these conflict with my ability to feel good though? XD

Note, by 'nice outfit' I'm assuming you mean either expensive or takes some time to put together.
Both of which just make me feel awkward.

Half the time my shopping there's at least one instance that goes like: "This looks like a rainbow took a dump on it. I'LL TAKE IT!" And contrary to what you might expect, or logically comprehensible as I prefer to put it, I meet the most interesting people with that stuff on.

When you are comfortable in what you wear, it shows. Your clothes might not have a universal appeal, sure, but here's the thing. When someone is attracted to a relatively uncommon trait, it's a lot easier to bond over than "Hey I like we live in a democracy too!"

Confidence, meanwhile, is universally appealing to anyone worth a damn.

 

[Razilin]

To back up the confidence comment, a ton of chicks started taking more of an newest in me just because of being confident/having swagger

All the "Girls love bad boys" thing is just because of a guys confidence

Guaranteed I can get more pussy than a bad boy just by walking into a room and tossing one-liners and being crazy awesome, because that's my element and where I am most confident

...that, or running a code Or A First Responder situation. Very confident there, but that's actually a serious medical scenario, so tapping ass isn't really top priority. ...

 

[Minibit]

If I'm into them, I tell them I like them! If I'm not into thrm, I let slip in conversation how I don't want to date anybody right now.
"If Ryan Reynolds fell into my lap and demanded I date him, I'd probably be like "dude, do you mind? I'm minecrafting."
Is a preferred way :P

 

[Cosmic Fey]

I'm very shy, like super, I-will-do-my-best-to-shrink-into-the-background shy. So if I have a crush on someone I normally won't tell them unless I'm about 85% sure it won't end horribly even if they say no because chances are I am/was friends with this person before I had feelings for them and would like to remain so. I'll get over the rejection (rather quickly if my history is anything to go by) but I understand that it can be uncomfortable for some people, so usually I just keep it to myself and the feelings will eventually fade.

Now, if someone for some odd reason has a crush on me or finds me attractive, I'm completely gobsmacked because, what? Why??? This is because I grew up having the mindset that, as a disabled person, I am somehow broken and unworthy and all that fun stuff drilled into me. I am slowly working through that, but it's still kind of an issue. So imagine my surprise when people tell me they like me. It has happened though and either, the feelings are reciprocated so we try a relationship, I turn them down gently, or neither of us say anything about it and/or peruse it (or in the case of a childhood friend and I, were too young to really do anything about it)

 

[Gwazi Magnum]

...that, or running a code Or A First Responder situation. Very confident there, but that's actually a serious medical scenario, so tapping ass isn't really top priority. ...

Unless if it's porn.