Basically I'm fairly active (and verbal) on facebook because the way I see it facebook is basically the page to express myself and my thoughts. I don't go up to other people on it and try to start anything mind you, I just happened to post a lot on my wall in general. This includes a lot of geek stuff, dark humour, speaking out against social justice, atheist posts etc (I also post stuff supporting things like LGBT rights, but I highly doubt that's the issue here). And I've got around 7-8 people (I lost count) of people from Iwaku on my friends list too so they can confirm this.
However, most of my extended family doesn't seem to appreciate some of these posts. What exactly about it though? I have no idea.
Reason being they have never confronted me and went "Anthony! I don't like ________!", instead they go all passive aggressive.
Over the course of a few years now they've consistently talked behind my back with stuff like "I don't like what he's posting", "I need to stop reading it or I won't love him any more", "Have you seen the kind of stuff he posts?" etc.
And note the reason I know this is because they are often reporting this stuff to my Mom, expecting her to take action on it.
But thankfully the most my Mom does is talk to me once in a while saying "You know the family isn't liking the offensive posts you're making" (well there was one exception where a family member of ours in secret police made Mom think I'd be an ISIS target for taking part in draw mohammed day. But that was more Mom terrified for my safety, not her trying to censor any point of view... And if your curious the picture ended up staying).
And every time I ask her what offence post she can never answer, the family isn't even bothering to say what the offensive stuff is.
So even if I cared to censor myself for their sake I wouldn't even know what to censor, which conveniently gives them more room to be passive aggressive.
Now, none this had actually been leaking into real life yet... mostly.
There was a funeral I went to a few days back where I saw them all, and the one's Mom mentions making these complaints were very distant (granted it's a funeral. No one's of truly stable mind at those. Though in case anyone's suspecting I was reading things badly cause of the death, this was a relative I barely knew. So the most down feeling I felt was from the environment). But not distant in general, distant at me specifically from what I could tell. They all huddled in big groups, but it usually took about 20-30 seconds after I joined one of them before they'd end up splitting off elsewhere, consistently. And there was one instance specifically where they are casual for a bit, noting my moustache (it was for Movember, I shaved it off now) but almost immediately after the look on their face (eyes specifically) suddenly switched to... Anger? I think? Regardless that look lasted for maybe a second or two and then they quickly rushed off without a word. Eventually I just ended up sitting by some row of chairs and killing time on the phone, and spending time with my little cousin whose almost three until everyone decided to leave, because it seemed apparent that no one was interested in talking.
Note I've noticed passive/avoidant behaviour like that at other gathering, this recent one was just the most evident/obvious of them all.
And note unless if they're all holding some bit of information from me this is all because they disagree with stuff I say on facebook.
On a more positive note, just a few hours after that I ended up seeing another side of the family, and they were nothing but thrilled to see me.
We did some investigative game thing where you had to solve puzzles and make it into the next room on a timer. That was fun.
