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Firstly, I'm unsure if this is in the right place. This section seems more playful and whatnot, but this thread also doesn't belong in Counseling. :^)
Anywhore, I'm going to be asking a couple questions about LDR's. That's right. Long Distance Relationships.
Secondly, please do not post if you are going to be negative and say things such as...
- "Long distance never works. You should breakup."
- "A 17 year old in an LDR? lmao are u fuckin kidding me rn?"
- "ur way too young"
^ Shit like that, keep it off my thread please. :'>
I am unsure how to segue into this correctly (currently listening to music, lmao), so let's just get right into the details.
I have been in an LDR since the 21st of March. We met through a good mutual online friend. We are in different states (he's West coast, I am just in the West, so we have a 1 hour timezone gap). Anywhore, I describe our relationship as a very healthy one. We spend enough time together (talking, on rabb.it, etc.) but we also spend enough time together doing our own things.
To put that simply, neither of us is too clingy but we are also not too aloof.
Boundaries, right? Good.
My friends think it's weird, my family knows about it (except my mother, we don't exactly have a good relationship but that's beyond the point). They don't really ask me about it, though. My grandma is supportive.
He's two years older. I'm 17, he's 19, but he'll be 20 for a month before I turn 18.
NOW that the details are out of the way, here comes the real reason I'm creating this thread.
When should I move in with him?
We haven't met IRL yet, but I have already bought a plane ticket to see him during Spring break for a week and a day. I was going to make him wait a couple years, but since the university I planned to go to in my state rejected me, I kinda just wanna leave now. (don't ask me to explain it, I can't -- guess being heartbroken over a rejection email does that kind of stuff to you, it's like a bad breakup and you don't wanna be in the same region as the person, in this case, the university I refer to)
The topic has come up a couple times. He has expressed how it would be cool if I moved there, but insists I do what I wanna do. Which is a good thing.
I kinda wanna just take the plunge this summer, but I don't know if that's the right thing to do. I'll be leaving behind all of my friends and all of my family. Plus, I don't know if it's too early to do so or not. I'm unsure what to do.
I guess I can only decide for sure after I stay with him, right? Eh. It's not a big deal but I just need a second opinion, or 5. I dare not bring this up to my real life friends and family.
Anywhore, I'm going to be asking a couple questions about LDR's. That's right. Long Distance Relationships.
Secondly, please do not post if you are going to be negative and say things such as...
- "Long distance never works. You should breakup."
- "A 17 year old in an LDR? lmao are u fuckin kidding me rn?"
- "ur way too young"
^ Shit like that, keep it off my thread please. :'>
I am unsure how to segue into this correctly (currently listening to music, lmao), so let's just get right into the details.
I have been in an LDR since the 21st of March. We met through a good mutual online friend. We are in different states (he's West coast, I am just in the West, so we have a 1 hour timezone gap). Anywhore, I describe our relationship as a very healthy one. We spend enough time together (talking, on rabb.it, etc.) but we also spend enough time together doing our own things.
To put that simply, neither of us is too clingy but we are also not too aloof.
Boundaries, right? Good.
My friends think it's weird, my family knows about it (except my mother, we don't exactly have a good relationship but that's beyond the point). They don't really ask me about it, though. My grandma is supportive.
He's two years older. I'm 17, he's 19, but he'll be 20 for a month before I turn 18.
NOW that the details are out of the way, here comes the real reason I'm creating this thread.
When should I move in with him?
We haven't met IRL yet, but I have already bought a plane ticket to see him during Spring break for a week and a day. I was going to make him wait a couple years, but since the university I planned to go to in my state rejected me, I kinda just wanna leave now. (don't ask me to explain it, I can't -- guess being heartbroken over a rejection email does that kind of stuff to you, it's like a bad breakup and you don't wanna be in the same region as the person, in this case, the university I refer to)
The topic has come up a couple times. He has expressed how it would be cool if I moved there, but insists I do what I wanna do. Which is a good thing.
I kinda wanna just take the plunge this summer, but I don't know if that's the right thing to do. I'll be leaving behind all of my friends and all of my family. Plus, I don't know if it's too early to do so or not. I'm unsure what to do.
I guess I can only decide for sure after I stay with him, right? Eh. It's not a big deal but I just need a second opinion, or 5. I dare not bring this up to my real life friends and family.