♪♫ NOTHING HAPPENS IN A VACCUUUUUUUUUUUUUM. ♪♫
https://www.goodreads.com/shelf/show/queer-theory
http://www.critical-theory.com/20-must-read-queer-theory-books/
http://libguides.gc.cuny.edu/content.php?pid=250358&sid=2067135
EDIT for extra bit:
Utilize the internet, kid.
My generation went through the trouble of growing up with the start of the internet as it looks today and a shitton of us rebelliously uploaded all the textbooks we had to buy with that paperpaper cashmoney in an effort to both offer relief tothe rest of us having trouble with dropping $500+ on textbooks and to also get that type of information out there, accessible for everyone. That is what I mean by "nothing happens in a vaccuum". These words such as "aromantic", "pansexuality", "boi" etc. are not new. Not even as new as y'all teens, some of these have been grounded in LGBT critical theory academia for a solid decade or two. Some of the words, if I really had to cover my ass,
are new but they still describe concepts that are actually old as shit.
History, thesis, dissertations, examinations, studies and all kinds of academia covering subjects that aren't even covered at your local high school is
everywhere. You shouldn't have to wait 'til you're at a university with the option of elective history courses in your catalogue to learn about it.
The internet very well cannot
tell you who you are but it sure as fuck can help you
figure it out.
EDIT 2: Electric Boogaloo: And barring that, the internet can assure you that you're not alone in the way you feel. Even with 7 billion of us running around, a kid figuring themselves out can feel lonely as shit if there ain't no one to talk to about it.
EDIT 3: Return of the Petty:
Granted this image is only irritating if you align yourself to a website over yourself, so.
Words Mean Things™
EDIT 4: Koori is an entire baseball team because the bases are always covered:
And after Jojo and Equi here, I have to emphasize something because I also noticed it in your first post April: There legit is not a rush to figure yourself out. Lemme get Cranky Old Person real quick on you:
All y'all kids needa slow the whole fuck down about all this shit. I get it, not a baby and not yet an adult and oh god you're ready-- so ready! But lemme tell you something, something that seems to not sink in for most folks 'til they hit their late 20s: When you die, you leave behind a timeline. You do not live by a timeline.
I notice you mentioning that your friends have all accomplished the arduous task of "figuring themselves out", in as far as their sexuality is concerned.
...
HAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA--
THEFUCK THEY HAVE. Okay, sorry, legit trying to tone down that Condescendingly Cynical Adult™ But honest talk, some folk are fortunate enough to really figure themselves out early and then have the conviction to stick to it. But I'm sensing a part of your hang up is trying to "keep up" with everyone who seems to have their shit sorted. Y'all are teens, teenagers, adolescents, young adults. Y'all passed puberty, are almost done with high school and I get it, the world we live in makes it really seem that you need to have absolutely every bit and bauble of your shit together by the time you walk across that stage to get your diploma.
Somebodies been lyin' to y'all. Multiple liars.
And if I did have to dip back into Condescendingly Cynical Adult, I call and smell bullshit on your friends claiming to completely know what they're about with their sexuality. And I simultaneously attribute the internet
and y'all's nascent-ass adulthood to this fuckup. While the internet has gloriously provided enormous amounts of collected data and made it accessible to anyone with a search engine, the problem is the digestion of those vast stores of knowledge. Like I'm sure y'all friends are quick to say words like "homoromantic" or "genderqueer" but I'm guessing they're not as quick to define them, to name those who had coined those words, under what circumstances, used in which contexts to describe what ideas and concepts. Now, you don't have to be a LGBT Studies major to have permission to use those words, but they are not "slang" they are terminology. Jargon, used in both high academic work and in the casual conversations held at a coffee shop during an Open Mic Night. Use those terms to be illuminating, not trendy. All that youthful vigor to look like you know what you're about. Calm down with it, ffs. You're gonna get there... eventually.
But I get it, to be able to look at someone and say shit with the utmost confidence that you are x, g, k, and p is pretty alluring. It's also fucking all y'all up. You might not veg out on the couch watching SpongeBob anymore but I guarantee that whatever the shit y'all are on now will not be the same 5 or 10 years from now. But if the desire to just have an answer for someone who asks you about it is that strong, then, research away but don't lie to yourself and think that you'll never have to look back on that shit again and wonder, "Mmmaybe not... after all."
"You are not obligated to be the person you were at age 13, a year ago, yesterday or any day." You're growing still, maybe not in body but growing just the same. The most blatant disservice you could do to yourself is to say, "lol yaa no im done now." and lock the door on yourself. Let yourself have the ability to change. Acknowledge what's happening with you, to you, as you are now because there sure as fuck no point in thinking about yourself in the past tense and there is most positively no goddamn point in trying to project yourself into the future because you don't even live there yet.
tl;dr: koori uses too many pop culture references, slang, and swearwords for me to follow all that shit:
Do nurture the urge to find yourself
Don't lie about knowing it already when you don't
Learn. Learn all the things.
Recognize context, recognize truthful application to yourself
Things Don't Happen In A Vaccuum
Words Mean Things
Teens are not Adults for precisely that reason
Slow the fuck down, live your life as it fucking comes to you for fuck's sake srsly
Teenaged is not a swearword
No one has their shit 100% together straight out of highschool
Drink some water
Keep ya blood sugar up
Pet a kitten