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Cyrine Lafafel
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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for just over a year. Everything has been great, though our parents don't like us dating were are anyway(rebellious per usual) and we have been great together. He knows I RP as a stress coping mechanism and is kind of okay with it but most of our... Issues stem from my issues...
Okay so simply put I have a lot of issues(and please don't comment you feel bad for me because I am not looking for pity but advise).
I have acid reflex, mood swings from slight depression, dependency issues(I refuse to accept help unless it is forced on me), and I have PTSD when triggered(I lived with my mom until last year and she was an alcoholic and a mean drunk... I think you can figure out the rest). I explained all this before I started dating him and he said it was okay.
Oh and not trying to be weird but we have never had sex because I am waiting til marriage(is that weird? ERPing when your a virgin?) He said he respected me for that decision.
Okay there's the background on us and me now onto why I made this thread.
So lately things have been weird...
He got a job this summer, after begging me to quit mine last summer so he could see me more. And he has been upset all summer because he can't see me...
He also gets upset because we don't talk a lot. But I have been with my grand for almost a week because she hasn't been feeling good and she needed the help.
A few weeks ago we got into a fight, not uncommon but I went to talk to him and he was upset so was I. And I talked about why I got upset. I really, really hates it when he passes judgement on people he doesn't even know them. Then when I tell him to just explain why he got upset and passed judgement he did and then he went somewhere I NEVER thought he would go. He said when I get mad he gets scared for his life. He says he doesn't feel safe when I get mad(and I do have anger issues but after I moved out of my mom's house I worked really hard and for the past seven months they have been completely under control). I literally got up as I started crying and ran away. I almost got sick and latter on he came to talk to me and said sorry, saying he didn't mean to say it. Then I say if he doesn't feel safe around me then we weren't going to date anymore. He started crying and saying I couldn't do that. We talked some more and he convinced me he meant something else and for me not to end our relationship.
Then today he calls me up, talking about himself for literally about eight minutes before asking what Im up to, I say 'nothing' and that's were things got bad. He starts ranting about some vegan chick on dA(deviant, a site he hates, a site I upload my art on) who feeds her dogs berries. Okay I understand he is upset but then he starts calling her an animal abuser. I said she is feeding the animal so its not abuse, and that she might just be a troll trying to get a rise out of people. He disagrees saying she uploaded photos of herself and her dog, I say how does this affect him and he says its bullshit, dogs should eat dog food and humans should eat almost anything because their omnivores... I ask him why he was belittiling someone he doesn't know. And then he got passed so I said goodbye because I wasn't in the mood to fight.
I am just so sick of this, he has never, and I mean NEVER, acted like this before and I just don't know what to do.
Advise from someone please? Or just someone to talk to, I don't care I am just so confused! x__x
Okay so simply put I have a lot of issues(and please don't comment you feel bad for me because I am not looking for pity but advise).
I have acid reflex, mood swings from slight depression, dependency issues(I refuse to accept help unless it is forced on me), and I have PTSD when triggered(I lived with my mom until last year and she was an alcoholic and a mean drunk... I think you can figure out the rest). I explained all this before I started dating him and he said it was okay.
Oh and not trying to be weird but we have never had sex because I am waiting til marriage(is that weird? ERPing when your a virgin?) He said he respected me for that decision.
Okay there's the background on us and me now onto why I made this thread.
So lately things have been weird...
He got a job this summer, after begging me to quit mine last summer so he could see me more. And he has been upset all summer because he can't see me...
He also gets upset because we don't talk a lot. But I have been with my grand for almost a week because she hasn't been feeling good and she needed the help.
A few weeks ago we got into a fight, not uncommon but I went to talk to him and he was upset so was I. And I talked about why I got upset. I really, really hates it when he passes judgement on people he doesn't even know them. Then when I tell him to just explain why he got upset and passed judgement he did and then he went somewhere I NEVER thought he would go. He said when I get mad he gets scared for his life. He says he doesn't feel safe when I get mad(and I do have anger issues but after I moved out of my mom's house I worked really hard and for the past seven months they have been completely under control). I literally got up as I started crying and ran away. I almost got sick and latter on he came to talk to me and said sorry, saying he didn't mean to say it. Then I say if he doesn't feel safe around me then we weren't going to date anymore. He started crying and saying I couldn't do that. We talked some more and he convinced me he meant something else and for me not to end our relationship.
Then today he calls me up, talking about himself for literally about eight minutes before asking what Im up to, I say 'nothing' and that's were things got bad. He starts ranting about some vegan chick on dA(deviant, a site he hates, a site I upload my art on) who feeds her dogs berries. Okay I understand he is upset but then he starts calling her an animal abuser. I said she is feeding the animal so its not abuse, and that she might just be a troll trying to get a rise out of people. He disagrees saying she uploaded photos of herself and her dog, I say how does this affect him and he says its bullshit, dogs should eat dog food and humans should eat almost anything because their omnivores... I ask him why he was belittiling someone he doesn't know. And then he got passed so I said goodbye because I wasn't in the mood to fight.
I am just so sick of this, he has never, and I mean NEVER, acted like this before and I just don't know what to do.
Advise from someone please? Or just someone to talk to, I don't care I am just so confused! x__x