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AirQuest
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Hmm I'm unsure of how to put this into words. It's a big, issue with someone close to me. I feel awkward stating my exact relation, but they are family.
Six years ago she found a guy, and they got together. They dated for four years, and got married two years ago. They have two kids, a five-year-old, and an infant at 9 months.
Then he started on cheating on her, and when caught, he owned up to it, realized he had done wrong, and while not forgotten, he was forgiven.
Only he kept cheating, and now he's pretty much ditched her to go hook up with some other lady, that he got pregnant. This other woman is extremely childish, she drove 30 miles to my "family members" house just to throw eggs at her car. This is a grown up we're talking about it.
He also keeps saying he doesn't really care about this other woman either, so what he really wants is a life of no responsibility.
When he found out that he'd have to pay child support, he quit his job to avoid doing it, but I've heard his boss is still paying him under the table.
He's pretty much making everything out to be her fault, apparently she's just such a huge, meanie to him that he had no choice but to cheat on her, and leave his two young, kids behind.
I don't know how she was to him. For all I know she could have been mean to him...I doubt it. She's a pretty nice person. She can get irritable when she wants things done, and people are being lazy, but overall she's a very nice, sociable, fun loving person.
For the life of me to go from a caring father, who enjoys spending time with his family, and he even did volunteer work, to help others. To go from that to "I don't want to have any responsibilities" is kind of a huge, shift in character.
I guess what bothers me the most is how helpless I feel. I want to help my family, because I love her, but I feel like there's nothing I can do.
Is there?
Six years ago she found a guy, and they got together. They dated for four years, and got married two years ago. They have two kids, a five-year-old, and an infant at 9 months.
Then he started on cheating on her, and when caught, he owned up to it, realized he had done wrong, and while not forgotten, he was forgiven.
Only he kept cheating, and now he's pretty much ditched her to go hook up with some other lady, that he got pregnant. This other woman is extremely childish, she drove 30 miles to my "family members" house just to throw eggs at her car. This is a grown up we're talking about it.
He also keeps saying he doesn't really care about this other woman either, so what he really wants is a life of no responsibility.
When he found out that he'd have to pay child support, he quit his job to avoid doing it, but I've heard his boss is still paying him under the table.
He's pretty much making everything out to be her fault, apparently she's just such a huge, meanie to him that he had no choice but to cheat on her, and leave his two young, kids behind.
I don't know how she was to him. For all I know she could have been mean to him...I doubt it. She's a pretty nice person. She can get irritable when she wants things done, and people are being lazy, but overall she's a very nice, sociable, fun loving person.
For the life of me to go from a caring father, who enjoys spending time with his family, and he even did volunteer work, to help others. To go from that to "I don't want to have any responsibilities" is kind of a huge, shift in character.
I guess what bothers me the most is how helpless I feel. I want to help my family, because I love her, but I feel like there's nothing I can do.
Is there?
