Disagreement: I find that disagreements are a normal part o life they will always happen and the way I handle them I find is a bit on the unique side (( despite me hating the word unique) When I approach a 'disagreement' I handle it as if it WEREN"T a debate. This means I sit down shut up and listen to the other persons opinion regardless of how 'wrong' they are. i try and find the truth in what they are saying their point of view because somehow they think they are right! When i've found that, when I can understand that somehow they are right, somehow deep inside of them what they did is okay, THEN i Discuss with them my feelings. I wish more people would approach the world like this. Int he end they don't have to feel the way I feel in the end they don't have to look at the world the way I look at it. So long as they understand that their actions were not okay, that their words hurt, that our disagreement need not lead to a dystopian relationship I did a good job! I am a fan of Philosophical conversation so I approach all things this way.
Discussion: I'm going to mess with the defition here. I'm going to say this is a NON-HEATED conversation, regardless of what Webster and his book say. Although after further examination I find that I like a phrase used in the words definition "To explore solutions" . I am not a conflict avoider I don't run when people come up to me and 'but heads' against me. I find this to be an ineffective way to solve my problems. But what I prefer is to talk to people, to discuss, with them to turn all debates and disagreements into discussions so we can solve the problem and so no ones feelings get hurt.
Debate: If I am debating with you, people tend to get upset and tend to leave there feeling like I'm overly aggressive and as though they didn't get their point across. These feedback remarks are what my peers and teachers have given me for years. These remarks are the reason i avoid debate. Not because I can't 'handle it' but because it seems most people cannot handle being in a debate with me! if you've pissed me off sot hat I'm seeking to rip your argument apart and 'prove' your 'incorrectness' I have a copious amount of ways to do so. I find that i am more studied than the average indaidual having read Plato, Aristotle, Socrates, Socrates, Confucius, Lao Tzu, The Coran, and The Bible I'm well versed in philosophical arguments around the world as well as most religions. This is why i hate debates I avoid them and I move to discussions, because in a discussion environment I can admit I'm not 100% right and listen to you and see through YOUR eyes and do my best to understand YOUR opinion. But the moment I sense it went towards a Debate I flip a switch and i rip folks to shreds. I'll end this with a roughly quoted passage from Confucius "The man who has won an argument has learned that he has the ability to prove his point. The man who has lost an argument has learned infinitely more things. He has learned he is not always right, and that the Way is closer to humility than pride."
