So some background The BF and I live together. We live in an apartment that's about three blocks from my work, which means I can walk to work and shopping, and I only spend about $10 a month on gas, as opposed to the usual $40 or $50 if I have to drive. The rent is also low and we have a great landlord who's always responded to everything punctually and respectfully. For the first time in a long time I can actually catch up on my credit card and other bills and even be able to set aside for a trip my best friend and I have been trying to do literally for years (she lives in Australia, we've never met in person). Neighbourhood is great, quiet, low crime rate, close to shopping/post office/pharmacy. This place is perfect for my needs. The BF doesn't like it. Well, I should say, he doesn't like it NOW. He loved the place when we moved in, was even bragging about it. Now he says he only said that because it was better than our old place (doesn't take much, the suite we were in before here was a pest-infested shithole). He says we need more space for our shit (by which he means his shit and all the shit he plans to buy), and that he doesn't like the neighbours. The neighbours upstairs ARE really noisy. They play music loud and stomp around and yell at all hours of the night, but heres the thing; they're on their third strike (we and apparently other tenants have complained about them before) and if they get one more complaint they're getting an eviction notice. I asked why we don't just complain to the landlord then? Its not like we'd have the same trouble with other people; these guys are deliberately loud. He doesn't want to dsirupt their lives. apparently moving away is easier (also, disrupting my life instead is okay?) But whatever. I wouldn't mind more space, so long as the rent is low. So I say fine lets look at places. Except any time he shows me an ad and I give my input whatever I say seems to be taken negatively. I don't like basement suites; they tend to be chlaustrophobic and not get much daylight. Both technicalities, but if I point out something that would be a no-no or a potential issue, for example the ad says rent to single person, we'd be two persons. Or that the walls are BRIGHT RED AND GREEN AND IT WOULD BURN MY EYES, then I'm being petty, and I'm expecting way more than we can afford, etc. His latest idea is to buy a house. Well, a mobile. He's unemployed right now (on EI) and wants to go back to school, I'm a full-time minimum wage slave. I also want to go back to school to finish my degree; the only university in our province that offers it is out of town. I don't want to end up living long term in a place I not only can't afford or would not be happy in, but I hate arguing, and I feel like the bad guy whenever I point an issue out. For clarity, he never antagonizes me or calls me names, but he gets frustrated when I point out problems or try to be the voice of reason (whcih I frequently have to be, he's kind of a dreamer), and it's tiring, so I end up just giving in and going along with whatever will make him happy, but I really don't want to find myself doing that with something as serious/longterm as where we live! Plus its hurtful when he's in such a hurry to get out of this apartment and is always putting it down, since I love this place and it's perfect for my needs, plus I'm the one who found it and picked it out (he looked at it too). I don't think he's trying to be hurtful; he's a really gentle, and usually considerate guy, but I don't know how to handle this. We're both only 21, and neither of us have a career or even a certain track for one, buying a house right now is all kinds of a bad idea if you ask me (we shouldn't jump into something long term just cause it's 'not here', nor should we go for a mobile just cause its the best we can do now (we could probably do way better in a year or even 6 months!), and he doesn't seem to care at all how disrupting financially a move is going to be for me. I don't know how to bring it up without making him look/feel like an asshole, or making myself look even more like the wet blanket/bad guy =( HALP?