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Ah, after re-reading your post, I understand what you mean. The proper pronunciation is 'i-de-a', but most people pronounce it as 'i-dear'. Is that what you're saying?It seriously irks me when people add a superfluous letter r to words when pronouncing them, such as with the word 'idea'. (Then pronounced 'idear'.) It literally makes me cringe whenever I hear it.
Yes, exactly.Ah, after re-reading your post, I understand what you mean. The proper pronunciation is 'i-de-a', but most people pronounce it as 'i-dear'. Is that what you're saying?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Linking_and_intrusive_RIt seriously irks me when people add a superfluous letter r to words when pronouncing them, such as with the word 'idea'. (Then pronounced 'idear'.) It literally makes me cringe whenever I hear it.
Fair enough! I personally pronounce the word as "i-dear" and pretty much everyone else I know pronounces it the same way. "I-de-a" sounds kinda weird in mind for some reason.Yes, exactly.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Linking_and_intrusive_RFair enough! I personally pronounce the word as "i-dear" and pretty much everyone else I know pronounces it the same way. "I-de-a" sounds kinda weird in mind for some reason.
Oh by YWHW, bad parents are the worst. I've even heard Teachers say they can't use the "I'll call your parents" threat anymore, because their parents simply don't care.When people don't raise their kids all that great. I've worked in a nursery and a kids place for 3, almost 4 years. I've been cursed out by 2 year old's because I put them in time out. Then the elementary age kids were worse. I've been punched and kicked in the face, bitten a few times, and cursed out by kids. And whats the response from parents? "She's just a kid, I'm sure she never meant to punch you." Or "He was simply expressing the fact you were oppressing their childhood. They need to be free and not worry about rules." and of course can't forget the old favorites. "Who the hell do you think you are? Have you raised a child? I think not, so fuck you for believing my child doesn't know how to act. He has manners unlike some whore I'm staring at."
Yep, that's what grinds my gears.
Having worked in an Autism Therapy Center before, and had three childcare placements I have never ran into a case like this... :/When people don't raise their kids all that great. I've worked in a nursery and a kids place for 3, almost 4 years. I've been cursed out by 2 year old's because I put them in time out. Then the elementary age kids were worse. I've been punched and kicked in the face, bitten a few times, and cursed out by kids. And whats the response from parents? "She's just a kid, I'm sure she never meant to punch you." Or "He was simply expressing the fact you were oppressing their childhood. They need to be free and not worry about rules." and of course can't forget the old favorites. "Who the hell do you think you are? Have you raised a child? I think not, so fuck you for believing my child doesn't know how to act. He has manners unlike some whore I'm staring at."
Yep, that's what grinds my gears.
My gender expression, my body size, and my general mental health place me, and people like me, as the butt of many a joke. Not exactly the same as racism jokes, but there are some parallels that can be drawn. Some of these jokes ring true and are actually very funny. Others simply perpetuate negative stereotypes, dehumanizing and minimizing my self-worth. Not just one joke. My ego can handle a few insulting jokes. Its years on years of these same jokes going around, so much so that the joke becomes the expectation. I'm not here for you to laugh at. I'm not here to bring some levity to your life. It gets tiring to have a society laugh at you.Now, I get everyone has their comfort levels, pet peeves etc. so racist jokes aren't for everybody.
But the second that stops being a discomfort and turns into a "I want this to stop, I find it offensive", that's where I feel a line needs to be drawn.
Then you're not only stopping someone's freedom of speech, but stopping it in the most positive escape we as humanity posses.
Plus, the second you demands others stop doing X because you dislike X you're basically saying "I lack the self control skills/maturity to handle my own emotions and tune it out. Therefore I expect everyone else to change how they behave and engage with others instead".
And to be clear, I'm not suggesting anyone here is one of those "I am offended, so stop this" kinds of people.
I'm simply saying when those kinds of people come up I draw a line.
My gender expression, my body size, and my general mental health place me, and people like me, as the butt of many a joke. Not exactly the same as racism jokes, but there are some parallels that can be drawn. Some of these jokes ring true and are actually very funny. Others simply perpetuate negative stereotypes, dehumanizing and minimizing my self-worth. Not just one joke. My ego can handle a few insulting jokes. Its years on years of these same jokes going around, so much so that the joke becomes the expectation. I'm not here for you to laugh at. I'm not here to bring some levity to your life. It gets tiring to have a society laugh at you.
On a more personal level, say friend to friend, or a small group of friends. If a friend gathers up enough courage to stand up to a peer and say "Hey, I find these jokes offensive. Could you not say them around me?" The least they deserve is the respect to try and compromise with them. The one saying the jokes don't have to stop altogether, but respecting their friend enough to curb the jokes when they're around. I have friends whom I insult on a regular basis, and we find it hilarious. However, I know other friends who would take offence to that, and so I refrain from indulging in that brand of humour. It's called empathy, and it's kind of a necessary thing.
I lack the self control skills/maturity to handle my own emotions and tune it out. Therefore I expect everyone else to change how they behave and engage with others instead.
Yep it's bad when a 19 year old sounds like a grandpa but it's true. I've volunteered for awhile and I'v met too many kids with different backgrounds that act like it. It is troubling to think that its gotten to this point but I think it shocks me more since I wasn't raised that way. I was raised to respect other and have manners when I'm out as a child. I just hope the few kids that are raised well will continue on that mindset instead of getting lazy about raising kids.Oh by YWHW, bad parents are the worst. I've even heard Teachers say they can't use the "I'll call your parents" threat anymore, because their parents simply don't care.
I seriously worry for our generation because of it. And let's not forget the next generation's kids.
Y'know things are bad when 19-year olds sound like old grampas.
Lol you were lucky. I started out volunteering with the school staff during gym middle school since kids with mental and physical disabilities. They were good kids but it was sad that I was made fun of for actually hanging out around them. We shared the Gym with them and try having 4 class worth of students on one half of a basketball course. All because they didn't want to anywhere near the other kids :( But I enjoyed the three years of helping them out. But as for the kids I've unhappily dealt with it may be because of where I live. It's not that great of a place to live, schools are terrible, unemployment is still pretty high and so is homelessness. So environment may be a factor.Having worked in an Autism Therapy Center before, and had three childcare placements I have never ran into a case like this... :/
Am I just lucky? Did you get put in a bad school/class?