Something a significant margin of people seem to forget a lot in these discussions, is that life is half
chance and half
choice. I did not choose to be born into poverty, and I did not choose to be born into a life where my mother would abandon me when I was fifteen, and I did not choose a life where I would be bullied and mocked for such things all throughout high school. I did not choose this life, and I had no control over that. What I
can do, is control myself. My emotions, my decisions, and where I should invest my time. If I am being bullied and harassed online, and this bothers me, then I should avoid such locations in which such vicious activity goes on unabated. If I choose to publicize my life,
then I must live with the consequences of both those who may support and profess my efforts to be just, and those who will simply attempt to burn me because they can.
You cannot control life. You cannot control the reality that exists independently of you. So long as human beings have independent thought, so long as people can be born to unequal circumstances, so long as free will remains:
So will those who will grow up to be malevolent tyrants. Punishing all individuals for the acts of a minority of the population is damaging the chains of society which bind us all to the social contract envisioned by Rousseau or Hobbs:
You damage human rights and freedoms by advocating for the vague restriction of human actions that cause no physical harm to another human.
I would not try to teach the bully not to be a bully. We have an endless plethora of third party groups and story writers and so on who expose that message in every facet of life, everywhere you go. Those who ignore it the first twenty times are going to keep right on ignoring it. I would not try to restrict the mobility and freedoms of all individuals in such a manner as censorship either: This merely leads to a state in which the believed values of one particular group are perceived as concretely superior to all others, and that
never ends well, no matter how righteous the cause may be. Good men with good intentions can nonetheless do
horrible things if they're allowed to mandate these kinds of restrictions on human beings.
What I
would teach, is that how much you expose of yourself, and what decisions you make based on the circumstances life gives you, and how much self control you wield, the company you keep, and the consequences of your decisions, are all on your own shoulders. If someone treats you poorly, push them away. If you cannot, then grow stronger until you can. If you are bullied online, find other places to be: The wonderful nature of the Internet is its inherent anonymity.
The only person who can ultimately destroy you from within is you. Therefore, if you feel weak, change that about yourself, become that which you wish to see differently. If you want more kindness, wield kindness. If you want more tolerance, wield tolerance. If you want freedom from your life, nobody is stopping you from walking out your door right now and signing up to a thousand different hobbies and interest groups and religious organizations and conventions and charities and...
... You get my point, no?
Teaching bullies not to be bullies will not stop all bullies, and censorship ends with the question "whose morality is the most superior?" Therefore the only person left in the equation is the victim. If we teach victims the plethora of options they have at their disposal to escape--or even defeat--the shitty behaviour of other people,
we enable success, rather than
punishing on suspicion. Remember: A teenager's entire world is typically high school. Show them there is more than high school. Give them outlets. Be involved in their life!...
...Orrrr just fucking censor everything. It worked out really well over the past 5,000 years of human history when we tried it, right?