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Fijoli
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NOTE: Before you start, this is not a guide, its not a rally, or discussion. This is merely My own opinion on Iwaku's rating system and why I choose to defend it. How I have come to see and use it. What it is to me. May you find for yourself, the way it works best <3
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I have been for a while noticing something happening with ratings.
Rating buttons have always been used to make something known. What is trying to be said is instead put through a passive aggressive use of the rating system and all too often is it taken to heart. For as such an opinionated person myself, I am surprised I do not have more negative ratings. XD mayhaps my good intentions shine through, but regardless of my intentions, I try to refrain from certain topics and that helps. ALOT.
All to often I am seeing people get upset over being negatively rated and I would like to point out a few things that might make some of you feel better. Cause lets face it, The Iwaku ratings are way too fun and add something genuine to the community, but like any community you will have people who don't know how to use it and even abuse the privilege. Take solace in the fact it is no longer a mark or reflection of our writing skills, it has now become a reflection of us and our social competence.
Here are some things that make Iwaku and it's community(you) benefit from the ratings.
-THIS IS NOT FACEBOOK- if you are one of those people that can't handle being negatively rated that's ok, one thing that makes Iwaku great is that, people don't get away with saying just about anything they want like on facebook. Suuuure people still get reamed out by others on FB BUT, let's be honest, FB has a tendency to talk about damn near everything political under the freaking sun. This community itself let's it be known what the social norms are. it's real, and true when we as the community get to draw that line together.
-WHO CARES?! really at the end of the day none of these people rating you live your life, know your struggles, or 'want' to understand where you are coming from(unless they PM you which HEY THERE'S AN IDEA, Keep it civil and get to know the person and you might get your negative rating revoked 8D.) If you don't get upset over stupid ratings, you can calmly communicate with the member and sort something out if that would make you feel any better. Otherwise I suggest not getting hung up on what others perceive for themselves about you, someone they barely know.
-I once believed- that I needed everyone to like me and tried too hard to do everything, and that pressure made me an anxious ball of stress, one day I had to stop caring. I just stopped, and though its easier said than done, what people thought of me meant a lot less than what I thought of myself.
-YOU ARE MORE BELIEVABLE- When you have negative ratings you have to keep in mind what you are being rated on and be open to criticism. Banking all of your emotions into a negatively rated post is just ridiculous and I bet you have way better things to be thinking about. like LIFE.
Really...Who wants to go through life, not being opposed or challenged to think differently by anyone....NOT ME.
I do not want everyone to like me, I do not want everyone to agree with what I say, I like to be opposed so that I may look through another persons eyes, to possibly see how they see. You should stand by your negative ratings and be as proud of them as you are your positive ones. (unless you are truly being a douche and everyone is jumping on you because you said something obviously stupid)
-ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD- its only someone else's opinion about something 'you' said. If you are going to say something you must expect consequences, good and bad. you cannot expect 4,000 some members on a RP site to agree with everything you say, feel, or share. Take it with a grain of salt, be brave, be you.
-IT HELPS TO LEARN SOCIAL COMPETENCE- for those of us who are shy, anxious, and downright terrified to be looked at in a negative light, I truly believe you are denying yourself the opportunity to learn what is acceptable in small groups VS. The community. How much you socialize on the internet doesn't mean a thing, Its other human beings feedback and reactions to what you say that really make an impact and truly helps you to evolve and even more so in how you handle the situation.
If somebody doesn't like something you said, and you truly feel in your heart that it was a joke, or taken the wrong way. Chalk it up to a learning experience in the strangeness of your fellow human beings.Either way, Don't let the opinion of others rue your own. Accept the fact that other peoples opinions are going to be different, if not, the opposite of yours. The world would be so boring if we all agreed on everything.
I hope this shed some light and helps you to be more confident in yourselves, regardless of how others might react while also taking their different views into consideration.
For those Who choose to rate another persons posts, post in a public forum, and socialize beyond Role play.
Abusing the rating system utterly ruins the true value of what I like to consider a Liberty. Rating simply because you do not agree with someone....is stupid and weak, you should voice your opinion why instead of hiding behind a rating or keep it to your self, because I'll give you a hint, You're doing it wrong.
It is very easy to get upset at something another person has to say, but this goes for everyone, and no longer, without saying;
Those who rate, can rate, and be rated equally. You are putting yourself out into the public and I urge you to act with understanding, compassion, and common fucking sense.
If you fail to make use of these three human virtues, when being a presence amongst the public of a community, You will be subject to equal scrutiny and must be prepared to handle the consequences of your actions. Considering the voice of the many is an absolute MUST when publicly speaking and voicing interests/concerns/opinions.
Truth be told, your actions absolutely effect others.
Please think, or even communicate before you act in public.....
Never know exactly who is watching.
you are all wonderful people, in your own ways.
Fijo<3
___________________________________________________________________________________________
I have been for a while noticing something happening with ratings.
Rating buttons have always been used to make something known. What is trying to be said is instead put through a passive aggressive use of the rating system and all too often is it taken to heart. For as such an opinionated person myself, I am surprised I do not have more negative ratings. XD mayhaps my good intentions shine through, but regardless of my intentions, I try to refrain from certain topics and that helps. ALOT.
All to often I am seeing people get upset over being negatively rated and I would like to point out a few things that might make some of you feel better. Cause lets face it, The Iwaku ratings are way too fun and add something genuine to the community, but like any community you will have people who don't know how to use it and even abuse the privilege. Take solace in the fact it is no longer a mark or reflection of our writing skills, it has now become a reflection of us and our social competence.
Here are some things that make Iwaku and it's community(you) benefit from the ratings.
-THIS IS NOT FACEBOOK- if you are one of those people that can't handle being negatively rated that's ok, one thing that makes Iwaku great is that, people don't get away with saying just about anything they want like on facebook. Suuuure people still get reamed out by others on FB BUT, let's be honest, FB has a tendency to talk about damn near everything political under the freaking sun. This community itself let's it be known what the social norms are. it's real, and true when we as the community get to draw that line together.
-WHO CARES?! really at the end of the day none of these people rating you live your life, know your struggles, or 'want' to understand where you are coming from(unless they PM you which HEY THERE'S AN IDEA, Keep it civil and get to know the person and you might get your negative rating revoked 8D.) If you don't get upset over stupid ratings, you can calmly communicate with the member and sort something out if that would make you feel any better. Otherwise I suggest not getting hung up on what others perceive for themselves about you, someone they barely know.
-I once believed- that I needed everyone to like me and tried too hard to do everything, and that pressure made me an anxious ball of stress, one day I had to stop caring. I just stopped, and though its easier said than done, what people thought of me meant a lot less than what I thought of myself.
-YOU ARE MORE BELIEVABLE- When you have negative ratings you have to keep in mind what you are being rated on and be open to criticism. Banking all of your emotions into a negatively rated post is just ridiculous and I bet you have way better things to be thinking about. like LIFE.
Really...Who wants to go through life, not being opposed or challenged to think differently by anyone....NOT ME.
I do not want everyone to like me, I do not want everyone to agree with what I say, I like to be opposed so that I may look through another persons eyes, to possibly see how they see. You should stand by your negative ratings and be as proud of them as you are your positive ones. (unless you are truly being a douche and everyone is jumping on you because you said something obviously stupid)
-ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD- its only someone else's opinion about something 'you' said. If you are going to say something you must expect consequences, good and bad. you cannot expect 4,000 some members on a RP site to agree with everything you say, feel, or share. Take it with a grain of salt, be brave, be you.
-IT HELPS TO LEARN SOCIAL COMPETENCE- for those of us who are shy, anxious, and downright terrified to be looked at in a negative light, I truly believe you are denying yourself the opportunity to learn what is acceptable in small groups VS. The community. How much you socialize on the internet doesn't mean a thing, Its other human beings feedback and reactions to what you say that really make an impact and truly helps you to evolve and even more so in how you handle the situation.
If somebody doesn't like something you said, and you truly feel in your heart that it was a joke, or taken the wrong way. Chalk it up to a learning experience in the strangeness of your fellow human beings.Either way, Don't let the opinion of others rue your own. Accept the fact that other peoples opinions are going to be different, if not, the opposite of yours. The world would be so boring if we all agreed on everything.
I hope this shed some light and helps you to be more confident in yourselves, regardless of how others might react while also taking their different views into consideration.
For those Who choose to rate another persons posts, post in a public forum, and socialize beyond Role play.
Abusing the rating system utterly ruins the true value of what I like to consider a Liberty. Rating simply because you do not agree with someone....is stupid and weak, you should voice your opinion why instead of hiding behind a rating or keep it to your self, because I'll give you a hint, You're doing it wrong.
It is very easy to get upset at something another person has to say, but this goes for everyone, and no longer, without saying;
Those who rate, can rate, and be rated equally. You are putting yourself out into the public and I urge you to act with understanding, compassion, and common fucking sense.
“As we are, so we do; and as we do, so is it done to us; we are the builders of our fortunes.”
If you fail to make use of these three human virtues, when being a presence amongst the public of a community, You will be subject to equal scrutiny and must be prepared to handle the consequences of your actions. Considering the voice of the many is an absolute MUST when publicly speaking and voicing interests/concerns/opinions.
Truth be told, your actions absolutely effect others.
Please think, or even communicate before you act in public.....
Never know exactly who is watching.
you are all wonderful people, in your own ways.
Fijo<3
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