Sadness

[Kitti]

How do you cope with feelings of sadness, what kinds of things do you do? Romantic comedies and ice cream? Sad music and booze? Do you think it's a good method or are you trying to find a healthier way to deal?​

 

[Minibit]

Depends why I'm sad?

Something I can fix or improve? I grit my teeth and work on fixing it. Moping isn't gonna make anything better, and I don't enjoy being sad.

Outside of that I use distraction therapy, surround myself with things/people that don't suck, and just deal with it. I don't stress over what I can't change.

 

[Gwazi Magnum]

Sleep

Pour my tears into a cup, AND THEN DRINK THEM!!!

 

[Shiri]

We talking a little sad or like super sad? If I'm a little sad I go into a mantra that it's not the end of the world. I also watch my comfort movies like Miyazaki and Gozilla films. :3 Super sad means I'll cry it out at some point. Crying is really relieving to me. Just whatever I was stressing about feels easier to handle after a good cry.

 

[Greenie]

Hm... I usually head to my room, listen to instrumental versions of sappy songs and let the tears flow. Cry and cry some more. But never in front of others v.v

 

[Autarch]

The only time I really get honest-to-God productive is when I'm really sad. Whenever something goes wrong and I'm out of it, I either exercise 'till I'm sick or blow through every little thing I have to do and make my house spotless-- generally, it makes me feel as if I've paid my due for whatever I was sad about, or helps me move on if it's out of my control.

Usually I respond to sadness with a mixture of "fuck off, you're not welcome here" and "I ain't about to let you influence the way I feel," so I tend to turn into a huge asshole until the feeling wears off as I try to burn the emotional sickness out.

 

[Greenie]

The only time I really get honest-to-God productive is when I'm really sad.

That's me when I'm pissed off. I try to do that when sad, but seriously hard when I can't see due to blurry eyes.

 

[Autarch]

That's me when I'm pissed off. I try to do that when sad, but seriously hard when I can't see due to blurry eyes.

The trick is to do something that you don't need vision for.

Like drawing.
Like driving,
Like writing.

Like cleaning.

 

[Kitti]

I feel like one of those useless artists but sadness makes me feel creative and artistically productive.

I also end up getting annoyed with clutter and any dirtiness, so I clean a lot while sad, too.

Sometimes I angrycry. Which is a bit like crying, except crying pisses me off, so I'm also angry.

 

[Gwazi Magnum]

I don't get how anyone can work when angry, sad etc.

Shit like that not only distracts me, but saps any motivation or willingness to do stuff. :/

 

[Autarch]

I don't get how anyone can work when angry, sad etc.

Shit like that not only distracts me, but saps any motivation or willingness to do stuff. :/

 

[Greenie]

I don't get how anyone can work when angry, sad etc.

Shit like that not only distracts me, but saps any motivation or willingness to do stuff. :/

Well when I'm angry and I don't busy myself into doing something, I end up doing stuff I regret. So instead I try to be productive. Last time I was angry I cleaned my whole room heh.

 

[Hecatoncheires]

I drink.

It's a solution for many of life's ills.

 

[Gwazi Magnum]

Personally I'd have used this.

But I only really get that if what you're doing is working towards lessening the pain of another individual.
If it's just something like writing*, cleaning etc? I'm lost as to how that could work. :/

*Unless if you're meant to be writing something angry... But that's more getting in character and finding a convenient moment.

Well when I'm angry and I don't busy myself into doing something, I end up doing stuff I regret. So instead I try to be productive. Last time I was angry I cleaned my whole room heh.

All I can imagine here is you throwing everything out going "Nope! Nope! Get the fuck out of my face! I will see my floor dammit!"

 

[Greenie]

All I can imagine here is you throwing everything out going "Nope! Nope! Get the fuck out of my face! I will see my floor dammit!"

Lol I wish XD Mostly very angry clothes hanging and er, bed fixing XD I don't have much in my room. v.v

Hm... I do tend to pm some of my close friends when I'm sad but still able to type.

 

[Autarch]

Personally I'd have used this.

Dammit, that's actually a much better example.

If it's just something like writing*, cleaning etc? I'm lost as to how that could work. :/

I'll try to explain, but it's more of a do-or-do-not thing. When something sad happens that I caused, or I'm feeling bad about myself, I use it as a form of penance; I do a task that I don't like doing when I've violated my moral laws to pay the emotional court a fine and serve my sentence (my stolen goods would be forfeit).

When something sad happens externally, like the several recent deaths of loved ones, busy work is a shallow distraction that helps give time to internalize an issue. I was raised by a dad who would punish outbursts of emotion, so I learned to let steam off in a fizz. It doesn't make me immediately feel "better," per se, but it gives me time to stop feeling sad without acknowledging it.

 

[Gwazi Magnum]

I'll try to explain, but it's more of a do-or-do-not thing. When something sad happens that I caused, or I'm feeling bad about myself, I use it as a form of penance; I do a task that I don't like doing when I've violated my moral laws to pay the emotional court a fine and serve my sentence (my stolen goods would be forfeit).

When something sad happens externally, like the several recent deaths of loved ones, busy work is a shallow distraction that helps give time to internalize an issue. I was raised by a dad who would punish outbursts of emotion, so I learned to let steam off in a fizz. It doesn't make me immediately feel "better," per se, but it gives me time to stop feeling sad without acknowledging it.

So basically it's a form of self punishment or avoidance?

court a fine and serve my sentence (my stolen goods would be forfeit).

 

[Dipper]

Take a long, long walk around town. That or wallow in it while listening to sad music, because for some reason it feels good

 

[Autarch]

So basically it's a form of self punishment or avoidance?

Hit the nail on the head. Kinda sounds bad when putting it that way, but it is what it is; if it works, no reason to change it, right? Even if a lot of us have holistically unhealthy ways of dealing with sadness, it's trading a greater evil for a lesser one.

I can't put into words how appreciative I am that I can finally throw references out without seeming like a weirdo.

 

[Gwazi Magnum]

Hit the nail on the head. Kinda sounds bad when putting it that way, but it is what it is; if it works, no reason to change it, right? Even if a lot of us have holistically unhealthy ways of dealing with sadness, it's trading a greater evil for a lesser one.

No, it makes sense. It's just not something I can personally do, cause when I feel something, I'm feeling it.
I'm terrible at forgetting or hiding stuff. :/

I can't put into words how appreciative I am that I can finally throw references out without seeming like a weirdo.

Those people sound boring.