More serious discussion: Times when we knew we were bad RP partners

Do you have a RP partner moment like this?

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SatanicBamnana

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I started this out because I feel like sometimes as partners we have moments where we are just bad RP partners. It can be because we're going through a lot and we ghost, or someone is going through something and we don't know how to comfort them, or a simple misunderstanding. But, despite that this is more about growth and reflection, so we can all see and relate to one another when we say:

My story honestly still makes me feel like crap. Granted it wasn't the worst moment, but it was a moment I wish I'd thought about more before I even continued one with my partner.

This partner (name not mentioned) Was living in a bad situation. They had a lot of trauma from the past, and a lot developing in the present. Coming from a similar background, I thought I could help. But we all know how mental health works, sometimes we don't necessarily want to be advised/helped. We just want to be heard. So this person came to me one day, talking about how they were having a rough time, their sibling was lashing out at them. They were really hurting.

Me having 4 siblings, all of the same background, and having gone through this (but was 10 years outside this situation.) Decided to say, "It's probably not you, you have to understand your (guys) living situation is also affecting them, etc. etc." When really I know I should have said. "That's unacceptable, I'm sorry you're going through this. I really wish I could help, but I am here for you and it's not your fault and you are not as they say." Etc. Just letting them know I was there, adn they were heard.

This happened a while back. And recently I thought about it and was like... Yeesh, that kinda came off super bad, because their state, and mine, is super different. Where I wanted to help, they wanted to be heard. And getting wires crossed, literally can kill trust and whatnot between people. And Honestly wish I could apologize to that person but life!

Feel free to post your story in a spoiler like this, and respond/discuss! We can all grow from these stories! <3
 

Adrian

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I don't think that makes you a bad partner, though, because it doesn't actually have anything to do with role-playing. Nor does it make you a bad friend. You were only trying to help and be impartial. Granted you didn't know everything about the situation, but how could you know? Even then, you can only help people so much.

But that's just my opinion based on what you said. I don't know the full story.
 
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SatanicBamnana

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I don't think that makes you a bad partner, though, because it doesn't actually have anything to do with role-playing. Nor does it make you a bad friend. You were only trying to help and be impartial. Granted you didn't know everything about the situation, but how could you know? Even then, you can only help people so much.

But that's just my opinion based on what you said. I don't know the full story.
I don't know if there was anything else that happened either, tbh. They kinda disappeared, and I assumed that was why at the time. xD But eh... I feel like that was one time where I probably could have been/could have done better. I can't remember a particular moment otherwise. Most times people don't say what's wrong. But yeah, I mean I tried, and looking back I know now. But as they say, hindsight is always 20/20.
 
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I have been a bad RP buddy for a while mostly due to Too Many Things, Not Enough Time Syndrome. ;__;
But hopefully The Mood is Write The Mood is Write knows that I still think she's the bees knees!
 

The Mood is Write

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Kitti is also awesome. <3 And loved.
 
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I'm open to a wide range of genres. Obscenely wide. It's harder for me to list all I do like than all I don't like. My absolute favorite is mixed and multiverse, but I'm not limited to those.

• Mixed Genre
• Multiverse
• High Fantasy
• Hard Fantasy
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I've had a hell of a time doing things like that. I'm doing my best to learn from those mistakes, though.

Right now, my Bad Partner Problem is that I'm probably being too pushy. @.@ I'm just so bored and thirsty right now.
 
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