While I understand the point you're making, @
Fijoli, I do respectfully disagree with two points.
1. That Role-Playing means that the player is assuming a role. In my experience a minority of RPs on Iwaku really fit this description. Collaborative writing would probably be more clear and to the point, but that's just not the name we use for it. I, for one, never feel like I am stepping into the role of my character as a person at any point. It's just writing for me. From some of the replies I've seen on this thread, I'd say there are lots of people like me.
2. That being territorial is a sign of a healthy relationship. Now, I'm not saying that it automatically makes a relationship unhealthy, but that's a super major huge red flag for abuse. This site lists it as
the very first thing to watch out for.
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/warning_signs.html
Those reports that say that the average man thinks of sex every seven seconds are probably exaggerated. Fact is, though, people of both sexes think about sex A LOT. We're biologically programmed to. I know you said activities, not thoughts, but it's kind of like expecting a partner to share every meal with you, or at least let you know what they're eating and never eat with anyone else ever. It's just a bit... overbearing. You think it's fine to want to "reserve" parts of your partner for yourself; I think that there is no part of a human being we should completely sign over to another. I'm not saying I'm right or you're wrong, but I don't think I'm in the minority when I say I find that off-putting. The very statement "person is mine" just makes my skin crawl. Territoriality, possessiveness... I don't know, I guess it just doesn't jive with my personality type.
Every person is different and every relationship is different. I hesitate to say, though, that all are created equal. Possessiveness and, sorry to use this word, clinginess might not be the problem, but they are enormous reflective roadsigns that a problem may be in store.
I hope I haven't hurt any feelings or stepped on any toes, but I feel this is a pretty important issue. It might be just a personality type with you, but for another person it may be a sign of abuse. Emotional abuse is abuse too, and it can occur in any relationship, with men or women, to men or women. Possessiveness and jealousy are the figurative sheep's clothing. Maybe the person is a wolf and maybe they aren't, but just having that in your wardrobe is a bit scary to certain people.