When is the last time you lost your temper? Was it WORTH it?
I lost my temper last when a friend that I've helped out of some very serious situations, traveled across town, cancelled dates, just to help her emotionally, lent her money so that she and her son could get into a better place, took a beating for, and did all of these things to help her, came out and said that nobody was there for her when she needed them, she was always doing things on her own and helping herself, and that she had no true friends.
So you know what I did?
I looked at her straight in the face for about ten minutes before telling her:
"I have some molars left, wanna kick them out too? Before you even say another fucking word, let me give you another reason to be 'brutally honest'; don't ever call me friend again. I like my teeth, and hate them being kicked, so if you don't mind I'll take my time elsewhere, and you can figure out what you do with yours cause I don't give a shit."
Harsh? Very.
But she'd done that for so long to me that I finally had enough; I wasn't helping the situation by allowing her do what she was.
What sorta stuff happens when you lose your temper? Do you hit things? Throw stuff? Scream? Bitch somebody out?
I don't lose my temper often or easily. But I do have levels of anger, but I am going to include annoyed into it:
Annoyed:
Quiet but give off an uncomfortable tension. Or I give a sarcastic remark, been told that I can be a bit passive aggressive. Normally doesn't last long unless you persist.
Low Anger:
I show signs of clenching my fists up, I put my sunglasses on to avoid them seeing how annoyed I look. If I do not show signs of reacting to you, that is a great sign that I am mad.
Medium Anger:
I chew on my lip and I am staring at you. I don;t have my glasses on, and I am more talkative. I'll openly state why I am angered, and if nothing is done, I will proceed to get that much more angry. It takes something VERY serious for me to get this annoyed with you; you literally have to have done something like throwing me in front of the bus for your own satisfaction in domestic situations, stabbing me would be a good start to get me to this point, or lying.
Don't ever lie to me.
You done fucked up son:
This, this takes a lot of shit to go down. I get VERY vocal, and will get in your face. I am not a violent person so never worry that I am going to hit you unless you attack me or are attacking someone else. My muscles are flexed, I have a clear expression of irateness on my face. I will more than likely walk out of the room or away and at this point I'd advise not following me unless you want to be snarled at. It is my way of calming myself down.
And what might trigger me you might ask?
Pedophiles, constant lying to me, even when asked to stop you do not, threats against my family or friends that are serious, homophobic racist people, transaphobic people, and a few other things that I can't remember.
When i get this mad at you, you've seriously crossed a line.
How do you feel AFTER the fact? Relieved? Guilty? Justified?
Depending on what you have done, usually I will remain who I was before I got mad at you.
Do you turn in to the HULK?
If you done fucked up so bad that I'm yelling at you, then yes, only I don't smash people. No I just make them run with their tails tucked behind them.
