ROLEPLAY Looking for players of the opposite gender

daemon_reaver

The World Maker
Roleplay Invitations
Group Roleplays, One on One Roleplays, Private Convo Roleplays
Posting Speed
Speed of Light, Several Posts a Day, A Few Posts A Day, One Post a Day, A Few Posts a Week
My Usual Online Time
All over the place
Writing Levels
Beginner, Elementary, Intermediate, Adept, Adaptable
Genders You Prefer Playing
Male, Female, No Preferences
Playing Style- Passive or Aggressive
switch
Favorite Genres
Fantasy,Modern fantasy, Scifi, Romance, most stuff
Genre You DON'T Like
Yaoi ,Horror, major blood and gore, that sorta stuff
#1
Okay, not so much a rant, but an expression of sheer confusion. This was the closest thing though. In my (many) hunts for partners in 1x1s, I have come across a rather curious phenomena. People asking exclusively for one gender or the other. Not for the character mind you, that understandable bit. No, it's the partner. Now then, why the bloody hell would the person on the other side of screen, usually not showing their face, matter? I could understand if one were doing IRL, or a service like Skype, things can get awkward depending on the RP. But this a site where one does not display face or voice. Instead text and some sort of Icon appear, and mostly of anime, art, or TV show characters. The only way you get to know is if someone is male or female is by looking at their profile, if they let that indicator display, or ask. Seriously, I don't get why They feel the need to only play with the opposite. Is it seriously that awkward, despite not seeing the other's face or hearing their voice, when crafting a story?
 

Nav

most ardently
Roleplay Invitations
Group Roleplays, One on One Roleplays, Private Convo Roleplays
Posting Speed
A Few Posts a Week, One Post a Week, Slow As Molasses
Writing Levels
Advanced, Prestige
Genders You Prefer Playing
Male, Female
#2
I think it's usually a level of comfort thing. Though I don't care what gender the person is on the other side of the screen, I have several friends (women) who are not comfortable roleplaying with men. Now, I'm not trying to imply they have a problem with male roleplayers or anything of the sort, but when they do sexual roleplays, they don't feel comfortable with people they think are male on the other side of the screen. To quote one friend in particular, roleplaying a sexual scene with a male makes it feel like she's cheating on her significant other.

Is it irrational? Rational? I don't know, I can't say. I think it comes down to what a person is comfortable with. It is my opinion that there is nothing wrong with being selective about who you roleplay with. ^-^ I'm certainly more open to roleplayers I consider close friends than those I'm not. Some people just take that selectivity to a bigger extreme. As a hobby, everyone wants to feel comfortable and confident with who they're working with.
 

daemon_reaver

The World Maker
Roleplay Invitations
Group Roleplays, One on One Roleplays, Private Convo Roleplays
Posting Speed
Speed of Light, Several Posts a Day, A Few Posts A Day, One Post a Day, A Few Posts a Week
My Usual Online Time
All over the place
Writing Levels
Beginner, Elementary, Intermediate, Adept, Adaptable
Genders You Prefer Playing
Male, Female, No Preferences
Playing Style- Passive or Aggressive
switch
Favorite Genres
Fantasy,Modern fantasy, Scifi, Romance, most stuff
Genre You DON'T Like
Yaoi ,Horror, major blood and gore, that sorta stuff
#3
Second part, Yeah, changed to understandable, well as I see it anyway.
 

Onyx

I preen for Satan.
DONATING MEMBER
Roleplay Invitations
One on One Roleplays, Not Taking RP Invites at this Time
Posting Speed
Several Posts a Day, A Few Posts A Day, One Post a Day, A Few Posts a Week, One Post a Week, Slow As Molasses
My Usual Online Time
Evening/Late Night (MST)
Writing Levels
Adept, Advanced, Prestige, Adaptable
Genders You Prefer Playing
Male, Transgender, Androgynous, Primarily Prefer Male
Playing Style- Passive or Aggressive
On the aggressive side, but I dig a mutual aggression.
Favorite Genres
High fantasy, modern fantasy, gaslamp fantasy, Anything Fantasy, dark comedy, supernatural, paranormal, psychological, yada yada
Genre You DON'T Like
Hard sci-fi I guess. Anything very combat oriented. Less interested in strict modern role-plays with some exceptions.
#4
It's a comfort thing. I know that many female role-players, especially queer female role-players have had negative experiences with male role-players whom have made them very uncomfortable, whether it be from crossing boundaries between fiction and reality or from fetishizing the material (lesbian/queer female romance). I understand then why they would be really wary of starting role-plays with male players after that.

I can only assume straight male role-players only wanting to role-play with female role-players is kind of a 'no homo' situation, but what do I know really haha. I am not a straight man.
 

Kat

be kind
Roleplay Invitations
Not Taking RP Invites at this Time
Posting Speed
One Post a Week, Slow As Molasses
My Usual Online Time
Varies
Writing Levels
Advanced
Genders You Prefer Playing
Male, Female, Primarily Prefer Female
Playing Style- Passive or Aggressive
Passive-Aggressive
#5
I can attest to understanding this kind of selectiveness being a comfort kind of thing. I've had negative experiences with male roleplayers, so I feel it's completely rational to be selective in asking for a specific gender from their partner. While I don't mind the gender of the partner myself, I can empathize and understand their reasoning for doing things a certain way. ^^
 

The Mood is Write

Mom-de-Plume
SITE SUPPORT
DONATING MEMBER
Roleplay Invitations
One on One Roleplays
Posting Speed
Several Posts a Day, A Few Posts A Day, One Post a Day, A Few Posts a Week, One Post a Week
My Usual Online Time
11PM to 2AM EST, plus or minus a few hours in either direction.
Writing Levels
Adept, Advanced, Prestige
Genders You Prefer Playing
Male, Female, Androgynous, Primarily Prefer Female
Playing Style- Passive or Aggressive
Combination.

My strengths lie more in the direction of emotions and short-term ideas, where my ability to plan out long-term plots is weak. I do best with a partner who helps me cover that weakness.
Favorite Genres
I'm open to a wide range of genres. Obscenely wide. It's harder for me to list all I do like than all I don't like. My absolute favorite is mixed and multiverse, but I'm not limited to those.

• Mixed Genre
• Multiverse
• High Fantasy
• Hard Fantasy
• Low Fantasy
• OP Fantasy
• Science Fantasy
• Modern Fantasy
• Soft Scifi
• Science Fantasy
• Low Scifi
• OP Science Fantasy
• Modern Realistic (Strict)
• Modern Realistic (Loose)
• Urban Fantasy
• Alternate History (Fantasy Preference)
• Post-Apocalyptic Mixed
• Post-Apocalyptic Fantasy
• Post-Apocalyptic Scifi
• Post-Apocalyptic Modern
• Dystopia
• Displacement
• Military
• Dying Earth
• Supernatural
• Drama
• Mystery
• Horror
• Religious
• LBGT
• Crime/Detective
• Parody
• Comedy
• Tragedy
• Romance (Must Include Others)
• Erotic (Must Include Others)
Genre You DON'T Like
The list is short. because it's hard to find genres I don't enjoy.

• Yaoi/Yuri (Gay/Lesbian is fine!)
• Furry
• Fandom
• Historic Non-Fantasy
#6
I've seen this, but it's primarily been on another site I used to play on—on that other site, it was a 'no homo' thing in almost every instance, because OOC/IC boundaries were fuzzy at best and nonexistent far too often for my tastes.

I can definitely see why people might respond to repeated bad experiences by starting a preference away from a certain player type, though.

Personally, I don't object to anyone based on their pants or gender. I've had good and bad experiences across the spectrum. In my experience, guys tend to be more frank and easier to talk to for me, and they're great at long-term planning. I've seen other women show more hype, and usually they're the ones tossing more emotion-based ideas. Downside of guys: they sometimes get crushes on me and are sometimes hard to read. Downside of girls: I feel like I'm annoying because I always felt like I wasn't part of that group, and then when I do feel comfortable, I get TMI. @u@;;

Just my (belated) two cents!
 

esoteric

perpetually woolgathering
Roleplay Invitations
Group Roleplays, One on One Roleplays, Private Convo Roleplays
Posting Speed
One Post a Day, One Post a Week, Slow As Molasses
My Usual Online Time
it varies but 12pm to 12am EST
Writing Levels
Adept, Advanced, Adaptable
Genders You Prefer Playing
Male, Female, Transgender, Androgynous, Primarily Prefer Male
Playing Style- Passive or Aggressive
Adaptable
Favorite Genres
Slice of Life, Fantasy, Historical, Modern, Horror, Action, Mystery, Adventure
Genre You DON'T Like
Furry, uh those fantasy school sex among minor things, mecha
#7
bringing this back from the dead
I've always disliked this because for one, it's assuming that there are only two genders. I'm stuck with a much smaller percentage of possible partners because I don't fall under either female or male. Secondly, it suggests a higher level of interest in your partner that is vaguely creepy. I believe it's best to learn personal facts after chatting unless already stated in the member's profile.

I can completely understand women being uncomfortable roleplaying with men though.
I don't rp smut very often so I never even considered the "cheating" aspect. I tend to forget that people have significant others (hello fellow ace/aro peeps).
 

Stratosphere

best rp partner ever!
Roleplay Invitations
One on One Roleplays, Private Convo Roleplays
Posting Speed
Speed of Light, Several Posts a Day, A Few Posts A Day, One Post a Day, A Few Posts a Week
My Usual Online Time
It's erratic.
Writing Levels
Elementary, Intermediate, Adept, Advanced, Prestige, Adaptable
Genders You Prefer Playing
Male, Female, Androgynous
Playing Style- Passive or Aggressive
I am an aggressive player, I can take a backseat but I do not like to be passive that often.
Favorite Genres
Fantasy, Horror, Action, Romance, Adventure, Drama
Genre You DON'T Like
Modern, Realism
#8
I never cared either way, but I will say that all of my roleplays I currently have are with male ooc people. I have a few, very few, women I roleplay with because they take forever to tag and usually find excuses or never want to start anything.

With men its mostly: discuss, show characters and start
With women its mostly: discuss, discuss, discuss, discuss....maybe.....start?

Most of my roleplays are fairly consistent at a few tags per week or more. My one female roleplays pal? 6 months per reply, plethora of excuses, constant apologizing for not tagging.

Just ugh.

I usually feel with women there tend to be more rules, more issues and less overall roleplay but the quality of play is usually higher and with higher post word per post.

Even when I am playing the male, it's like dragging out tags from girls :( idk. I am hesitant to roleplay against females because they dont tag, tag so slow I get bored or only want to play female. Granted, I have never had a successful roleplay where I have played as male unless I am NPCing them.