Wow, you're actually proving my point. You're intentionally ignoring all the evil (and quite competently so!) things that Lili does. She's incredibly emotionally manipulative as seen by the tiny smirks she makes whenever she fools Bell, she's adept at magical disguises, she's actually quite skilled physically as seen by her aim when disarming bell and stealing his weapon, she's surprisingly strong based on the size of the load she carries with ease, and she has a very powerful magical weapon on top of all that. She was ambushed and beaten up and suddenly it's 'oh teh poor weak womenz! She's so pitiful!' Wow... And they weren't partying together for ages, it was maybe a week or two at most based on the other events going on concurrently.
Meanwhile, the man is seen as evil by default. Because he "looks mean." Perhaps if he'd been more effeminate (woman-like) there'd be room for pity! But nope, he even mentioned in his first encounter with Bell that Lili had stolen from him too, but he's clearly despicable, and abusive. Never mind that his outrage and anger at Lili is likely very well justified. He even tried to warn Bell what was coming! What a villain, intruding on that woman's plans to rob him and leave him to die!
And don't come at me with disorders as if they disprove the classification. You don't point to a disorder and say 'see, there are outliers so you can't speak of norms!' Doing so is shallow and pedantic.
