Interracial Dating

[ᴛᴏᴄᴋᴀ]

Interracial couples don't bother me. Incompatible couples are the ones that get on my nerves! You know, the couple who are always fighting every time you see them and you know that they really don't belong together, but they stay together anyway? Those people poison everyone around them, and it drives me nuts.

 

[SacredWarrior]

Interracial couples don't bother me. Incompatible couples are the ones that get on my nerves! You know, the couple who are always fighting every time you see them and you know that they really don't belong together, but they stay together anyway? Those people poison everyone around them, and it drives me nuts.

If loving you is wrong, I don't wanna be right!

 

[ᴛᴏᴄᴋᴀ]

If loving you is wrong, I don't wanna be right!

There comes a point in time when people really should look at each other and say 'You know, you make me absolutely fucking miserable. Why are we together?'

My cousin s in a relationship like that. Him and his girlfriend have the police called on them all the time, have peace orders against each other, hell, he lost visitation of his daughter because of his relationship! Yet he still stays with her.....

I don't understand it! I'd rather have no relationship than one full of drama.

 

[SacredWarrior]

There comes a point in time when people really should look at each other and say 'You know, you make me absolutely fucking miserable. Why are we together?'

My cousin s in a relationship like that. Him and his girlfriend have the police called on them all the time, have peace orders against each other, hell, he lost visitation of his daughter because of his relationship! Yet he still stays with her.....

I don't understand it! I'd rather have no relationship than one full of drama.

I don't fucking get it either trust me -_- Usually the biggest excuse I hear is because of their children but that's a stupid argument

 

[Gwazi Magnum]

the biggest excuse I hear is because of their children

Every single time I hear "Think of the Children" as a defence, it's just some lazy defence to a poisonous, paranoid and hateful belief.
To the point their only potential avenue of acceptance is to stir an emotional response by appealing to a child's innocence.

Even though in practically every instance it's used the children are much better off exposed to it.
(Exception with stuff like a bad relationship. That shit they need to be removed from ASAP)

Note: I say this being an ECE (Early Childhood Education) graduate. I've heard this defence a lot.

 

[ᴛᴏᴄᴋᴀ]

Staying together for kids is the worst excuse ever. As a parent, my kids come first. If my husband and I are fighting all the time and things eventually come to a point where we can't look at each other without cussing, that puts them in an unhealthy environment. Having three girls, I want to set an example for them that whomever they are with should treat them with respect, and that should work both ways. Putting your children in a situation where they're witnessing their parents tear each other apart emotionally is the worst possible thing anyone could do.

 

[SacredWarrior]

Staying together for kids is the worst excuse ever. As a parent, my kids come first. If my husband and I are fighting all the time and things eventually come to a point where we can't look at each other without cussing, that puts them in an unhealthy environment. Having three girls, I want to set an example for them that whomever they are with should treat them with respect, and that should work both ways. Putting your children in a situation where they're witnessing their parents tear each other apart emotionally is the worst possible thing anyone could do.

 

[Hatsune Candy]

When it comes to relationships, or any other type of social interaction, I (try to) judge people based on their values and personalities. Sometimes I might judge them on their looks, unintentionally, but I do my absolute darnedest to never, ever judge based on race.

 

[Windsong]

I find mixed race children to be less attractive than the sum of their parents.

Otherwise I've never bothered. I'd stick my dick in whatever color I could. Pussy is pretty pink either way.

Every interracial relationship I've seen save one has fallen apart or been shattered by abuse, usually by the non-white partner no less. It's a statistical trend.

Edit: Mixed race offspring have worse health as well. Purposely subjecting a kid to that risk just ain't worth it.

 

[Astaroth]

I actually once had someone ask me if I didn't want to go out with them because they were black. I was maybe 15, so it kind of shocked me because that didn't even occur to me as a reason why someone would refuse to date another person in that day and age. (I'd say this day and age but given the time lapsed since this event, that's not really accurate.)

That's really shitty that whatever experiences they had in the past led to them feeling the need to ask me that. I'm with Diana, who the fuck actually cares.

My mother's best friend had an interracial marriage (Swiss-Austrian immigrant lady married to an African-American man). Her daughter was born six days apart from me. She's fucking gorgeous. Crushed on her a bit at one point. Her parents ended up divorced, but as far as I know the issues were more to do with career choices and romantic inclination than anything regarding racial differences.

 

[KuroBuros The Infected]

I actually once had someone ask me if I didn't want to go out with them because they were black. I was maybe 15, so it kind of shocked me because that didn't even occur to me as a reason why someone would refuse to date another person in that day and age. (I'd say this day and age but given the time lapsed since this event, that's not really accurate.)

ME TOOO!!!!

 

[Mid]

I am a Puerto Rican who prefers black guys. I have dated a spanish guy, felt more like i had to be this dude's mother. I get that vibe with a lot of Hispanics in nyc, high fucking maintenance. I feel like dating a white guy, i would be considered "exotic" in their families' eyes and that was a big problem in one of my mother's relationships. The mother disliked her because she wasn't Italian and it ended their relationship.

I dunno, just my preference and it's pretty common in NYC. Omo

 

[Diana]

I got kicked out of the family for awhile by my grandparents cause my escort to a dance was black. >:[ After I had left their house, my granpa called up my dad saying "Do you know that your daughter is out with a BLACK GUY?"

And my dad said "So?" and hung up on him.

And that day my dad became the coolest dad in the universe. 8D And also got kicked out of the family.

 

[Summer Rain]

I could dare less who other people decide to date - whether they will same sex, interracial, etc etc. We all have the same blood running underneath that skin colour or that gender, and in the end, you should be able to love who you love.

That being side, I can see where problems can arise, especially from reading the comments already on this thread. I have never myself dated someone a different race than me (it just happened that way), but I can imagine it must be difficult trying to adjust to a different culture. At the same time if the family was supportive, I could also see it being really interesting and amazing. I have a few friends who are a different race from me - one who is Chinese, another who is Filipino, and being able to see their culture is really fascinating. I think if I was interested enough in someone I really wouldn't care about their race.

I do live in a northern community in Canada (Ontario), and so our primary races are Native Canadian and white. Very few black people live up here, and probably about the same amount of Asian/South Americans. You don't see many interracial couples are here, but I think that's the primarily reason. Most Aboriginals marry/date other Aboriginals, and white with white, although we are all Canadians so I'm not sure if that is another "race" of people. Regardless, you mainly see white couples up here. I don't have an issue with interracial couples though, and it still slightly appalls me that some people do. They do realize what skin colour is, right? Just a colour? Like I said, we've all got the same blood.

 

[Slade]

Fooled around with a few Black girls, though I usually just dated white chicks. Just started seeing a Sri Lankan girl, pretty cool.

If I have children though it will be with a white woman, I want my children to look like me and there is nothing wrong with that. I actually had this discussion with my room-mate, a 45 year Creole woman along with her elderly mother and we both came to the same conclusion: Her mother said "I want Black Grandkids, not white or Asian or Hispanic, but Black."

 

[SacredWarrior]

I got kicked out of the family for awhile by my grandparents cause my escort to a dance was black. >:[ After I had left their house, my granpa called up my dad saying "Do you know that your daughter is out with a BLACK GUY?"

And my dad said "So?" and hung up on him.

And that day my dad became the coolest dad in the universe. 8D And also got kicked out of the family.

You should've hugged and kissed your dad :D

 

[ᴛᴏᴄᴋᴀ]

I find mixed race children to be less attractive than the sum of their parents.

I am the complete opposite. I've known quite a lot of mixed people, and I've always thought they were more attractive, at least when their parents are black and white. I knew a guy who was Asian and Black, and he was kind of scary looking, but other than that I've met more attractive mixed people than anything else.

I have dated a spanish guy, felt more like i had to be this dude's mother.

Yeah, that's right on the money. I went out with a Spanish guy for a few weeks. Nothing serious, but after those few weeks I decided I just couldn't handle all the attention he required.

 

[Space Cowboy]

I've known quite a lot of mixed people, and I've always thought they were more attractive,

Well, as a mixed guy:

How you doin'?

 

[ᴛᴏᴄᴋᴀ]

Well, as a mixed guy:

How you doin'?

Seiji, I think you need an ice bath. :P

 

[Kagayours]

@_@ This... this is a thing? A thing that people are actually concerned about? ...Seriously?

We're all people, last I checked. Not dog breeds. Personally, I have little to no relationship experience to speak of -- but I would certainly hope that people choose their ideal partners based on what kind of person they are, rather than the race they happened to be born into. O_o

Like, it's one thing if we're talking purely about physical attractiveness. It totally makes sense that people would find one race more attractive than another, if only because of the physical attributes that go along with that race. However, one could say that they dislike light/dark hair as much as they dislike light/dark skin, so it just feels weird to think of it as a race issue. Besides, I think it's fair to say that most of us will occasionally find exceptions for these rules -- people who have traits that we usually dislike, but we find attractive on that particular person because it just seems to work on them.

But like, not dating a specific race because of their personality? I'm amazed that people here would be so eager to stereotype like that. O_O And as for "culture"? Culture =/= race. Not race by itself, anyway. There are a ton of factors that play into culture, and it's entirely possible that a white family might be way more culturally similar to a black family than they would be to another white family, depending on the families in question. I mean, yeah, if you and your potential partner don't share the same values and/or you don't think you'd get along with their family then, yeah, those are some problems to address, and it could very well be a sign that the relationship isn't meant to be. But I certainly wouldn't assume that all or even most partners/families of a certain race will present the same issues as that one person that you dated in the past. That's hardly a representative sample size. @_@

And, not wanting your kids to be anything other than 100% the same race as you...? Yikes. I didn't realize that people were so eager to maintain those pure aryan genes.

Anyway, I would certainly hope that the choice of one's life partner is based less on what you want your kids to look like, and moreso on whether or not you love this person and want to spend the rest of your life with them.

Because, really, we're all people, so just treat each other as such. If someone's not your type and the relationship just isn't going to work out then, fine, that's one thing. But leave race out of it. Because all that does is apply blanket generalizations that just feel... icky. And if you wouldn't say "I don't date dark-haired people because I want my kids to have light hair, like me", then why is it so different when you replace "hair" with "skin"? If someone really connects with you and you can see yourself having a future with them, then why should their ancestry and genetics matter so much to you? O_O