So I've been planning on moving in with my boyfriend, who lives in Canada, for about a year now. Originally I was supposed to move back in June or August, but it ended up getting pushed back until this month. September 15th to be exact. My family has known about my desire to move since my graduation back in may of this year, however now that the official date is coming closer they have all switched their moods about the subject. My grandmother has been guilt tripping me about moving since she found out, which is fine I suppose because she was just sad. My mother has kept quiet about it, trying to encourage me in her own way but when I finally made the announcement on facebook she left a negative comment about it. "Well that's a nice thing for your mom to find out on facebook. Thanks for the FYI." yet she's known about this since may. Originally I wanted to move in august, but she asked me to push it back until after labor day because she needed me to dog sit for that whole week. Just a few weeks ago I told my step dad's side of the family that I was planning on moving on the 15th, and she was there for that. My point is that she's known for a long time now, so why is she acting like she didn't? My grandmother has gone from guilt tripping me to making outlandish accusations that my boyfriend is trying to keep me dependent on him and is showing all the indicators of being an abuser. The reasoning behind these accusations being that I told them that my boyfriend did not want me to bring my car with me to Canada. He also didn't want me to get a phone plan either, which I admit does sound like he's trying to isolate me. When I expressed my concerns about not having a phone for emergency situations, he changed his mind on the matter. His primary concern about both was simply because money is going to be tight and he can't afford car insurance for my vehicle. We compromised on the phone plan because I'm going to be working as well to afford that. Anyways, I just need some advice on how to handle my side of the family being negative about the situation.