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I'd help, but, first of all, I'm not entirely sure what you want help with. o_o
I think you're saying that people are being asshats to you no matter what RP plots you do, in which case...
If someone's an asshat, then they're an asshat. I wouldn't try to change my RP wish list just to suit those kinds of people. Do what you want to RP, and, if you find someone who RP's well with you, that's great! If not, then, well, that sucks, but I wouldn't beat yourself up over someone else's actions.
That being said!! I'm also worried that some of your problems might just be the result of not communicating well enough with people, or assuming that people are being mean to you when they might not even realize how it's coming across on your end. I don't know enough about your situation to say that's for sure what happened, but... just a possibility, based off of the limited information that I have. And if that's the case, then, I would recommend communicating with people better. :/ If someone's doing something that you don't like, tell them. Don't chew their head off or anything, but, like, speak up. Communicate with your partner about what you both want so that you can both be happy. And if it doesn't work out, then, well -- I personally don't do 1x1's, but I've been told that finding a good partner is tricky (in fact, not being compatible with partners is one of the reasons why I gave up on 1x1's and just stuck with group RP's). Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, you just kind of have to keep searching for that perfect partner, I guess. :/
And, if the problem is with drop-outs specifically, then I should definitely bring up that a lot of the people who ditch RP's without a word aren't trying to be mean about it -- they're just... shy, and are afraid to say anything, especially if they really did want to commit to the RP but just weren't feeling it anymore. And while ditching without a word definitely hurts so much more than someone just being honest with you, unfortunately, a lot of people don't seem to realize that. That being said! If you don't want people ditching without a word, then just tell them that you'd much rather they be honest with you about leaving. Tell them up front that if they want to leave, that's ok -- you just want to know about it. In my experience, I'd say that works pretty well about getting drop-outs to be honest with you, so that you can move on with your life.
So basically, I'd say that communication is key. Talk to people -- see what they want, and make sure they understand what you want. And if someone is still coming across like an asshole after all that... well, they're an asshole, but that doesn't mean you can't still do what you want to do.
There is no way to please everyone, after all. No matter what RP's you try to do, not everyone's going to like it. But that's ok, because not everyone needs to like it. You just need to find one person who likes it, and, that's definitely the tricky part -- but, if you can communicate with people about what you want then, well... hopefully the search for the perfect partner won't be quite so frustrating.
Hope this helps.
