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Well, coming forward with this was a huge, step for me. I barely acknowledge when I have problems, much less seek help for them. I've developed as kind of a coping mechanism a strong, individualist streak of wanting to dictate how my life goes. Mostly because of how helpless I feel.
I first started roleplaying as a means of escapism. I didn't have a terrible life, but my father is a violent drunk, and added in bullying at school, and my mom just leaving town when I was 12, leaving me with no defense against my dad, roleplaying was that part of my life I turned to in order to get away from everything.
Lately it's been hard. I mean roleplaying. In the past I'd set up an Ad, and within the first week I'd get several people wanting to be friends. Nowadays I'm lucky if I get one person that responds in a month. Those I do get rarely stay with me.
I'd love to pull the victim card, but the truth is I can't. The truth is, a lot of it is me. When it comes down to it, I think I'm so used to being let down, or left that I push people away. I think there are times when I do things without realizing them, just to drive people away. I don't think I'm mean so much as people find me irritating, or exhausting to put up with. I tend to do things like asking too many questions, stalling the RP, randomly jumping around topics.
The irony is that what I want most is a friend. The last real-life, friend I had at the age of 15 she, and I were planning to write this story together. She left too, moved away, and after that writing was just never the same for me. That's about when I started doing the above stuff, for the most part. The random topics however, I've always done that. I honestly just love talking to my partners, and I tend to want to discuss everything on my mind.
I used to hear that people with depression feel better from getting jobs, and socializing. I tried that. It didn't work. I had two jobs, neither worked out. I liked the first one, but the second one involved working with several people, and handling a lot more customers. I'm not a big, meanie...I'm just very introverted, in real life. I don't deal with people, though I can fake it for a brief period, I can fake being an outgoing, extroverted sort of person.
I have this weird habit of where I'm very live, and let live, but at the same time I'm controlling. I love doing split sides for RP's because I want to dictate exactly how my side goes. However, I want my partner to be treated fairly, so while I am controlling about my side, I'm very relaxed about how my partner does their side, which is why I prefer roleplays where instead of us being in the same world, my side is in a different world. I get what I want, and my partner gets what they want.
I know I'm feeling lost, but I don't know where to look anymore.
Please give advice.
I first started roleplaying as a means of escapism. I didn't have a terrible life, but my father is a violent drunk, and added in bullying at school, and my mom just leaving town when I was 12, leaving me with no defense against my dad, roleplaying was that part of my life I turned to in order to get away from everything.
Lately it's been hard. I mean roleplaying. In the past I'd set up an Ad, and within the first week I'd get several people wanting to be friends. Nowadays I'm lucky if I get one person that responds in a month. Those I do get rarely stay with me.
I'd love to pull the victim card, but the truth is I can't. The truth is, a lot of it is me. When it comes down to it, I think I'm so used to being let down, or left that I push people away. I think there are times when I do things without realizing them, just to drive people away. I don't think I'm mean so much as people find me irritating, or exhausting to put up with. I tend to do things like asking too many questions, stalling the RP, randomly jumping around topics.
The irony is that what I want most is a friend. The last real-life, friend I had at the age of 15 she, and I were planning to write this story together. She left too, moved away, and after that writing was just never the same for me. That's about when I started doing the above stuff, for the most part. The random topics however, I've always done that. I honestly just love talking to my partners, and I tend to want to discuss everything on my mind.
I used to hear that people with depression feel better from getting jobs, and socializing. I tried that. It didn't work. I had two jobs, neither worked out. I liked the first one, but the second one involved working with several people, and handling a lot more customers. I'm not a big, meanie...I'm just very introverted, in real life. I don't deal with people, though I can fake it for a brief period, I can fake being an outgoing, extroverted sort of person.
I have this weird habit of where I'm very live, and let live, but at the same time I'm controlling. I love doing split sides for RP's because I want to dictate exactly how my side goes. However, I want my partner to be treated fairly, so while I am controlling about my side, I'm very relaxed about how my partner does their side, which is why I prefer roleplays where instead of us being in the same world, my side is in a different world. I get what I want, and my partner gets what they want.
I know I'm feeling lost, but I don't know where to look anymore.
Please give advice.