I don't need advice or consolations, I just want a place to rant. Last week my father's side of the family tree was very disturbed to learn of something that has been happening to my aunt, the third eldest of my father's siblings. It turns out that her husband of at least 16 years has been having an affair with another woman, and they live in a small town or community. People gossip. In fact, this other woman's sister was the one who came clean to my aunt and her sisters about this affair that has been going on for a while. And then the other woman found out about her sister and has been verbally attacking my aunts and my family on Facebook. My aunts are not the kind of people who would back down from being verbally harassed. This has been going on since last week and I was the last to know of my family due to my studies. My aunt has been very quiet about this. In her community, people tend to point and gossip, and she is the principal of a school in the area. She's expected to maintain decorum, and in Asian societies, it's not really... Good to air out your dirty laundry or even talk about family problems. It's supposed to be private. However this has virtually been broken out on Facebook already and the people in my aunt's community and area have already been gossiping about her. I don't know why my aunt's the one being blamed and pointed at when her husband is the one doing the cheating. 'For such an educated and smart woman, she certainly couldn't keep her husband in line.' Words like that and worse have been passed around, and I don't even want to know what effect this is having on her. I'm in another province and city right now and there is little I could do. And apparently, this woman has told my aunt that 'she's lucky she's only the legal wife but not for long'. She intends to fight the rest of my family and my aunt just for this, she has been sending my aunts threatening and harassing hate messages, and she has not stopped. I'm worried most of all for my aunt and my cousin, a 15-year old boy who is currently furious at his father. Why are they the one being pointed and whispered at? Why is my aunt the one being snickered at and called 'not woman enough' to keep her husband? This is very upsetting. My father's side of the family has my dad as the eldest sibling of seven, three boys and four girls. It's bothering everyone now. And us cousins all love our aunt. She's very dear to us. But I can only emotionally distance myself from this because I can't afford to get caught up in this drama.