In the past year there has been a lot of tension in my family on my mothers side. My uncle's wife had said horrible things about my grandmother, my aunts, my mom and me. At first I wanted to know nothing about it because this woman was already dead to me for throwing my uncle out and refusing to let him see his own kids. I was on my uncles side until suddenly, he's back with her and they move to another city. Everyone in my family felt betrayed, especially me because he wasn't just my uncle he was my second dad. So months pass and my mom finally forces me to sit down and listen to everything that had happened and I felt completely broken. His wife called my grandmother, who helped take care of their two kids who are severely autistic, went out of her way to take her to work at bars and treated her like her own daughter, a useless cunt. She called my mother a worthless bitch who gave birth to worthless kids. And she accused me of molesting her oldest son. That accusation had me break down sobbing and finally telling my mom what REALLY was happening. Her oldest son had been molesting me for years and she knew about and blamed his illness and manipulated me through my depression and self loathing to keep it a secret. But what hurt the most was that my uncle chose, after hearing about all of this, to go back with her and turned his back on his family. So in turn, I've become very cold and angry when it comes to them. Any mention of them I walk away or ignore the comment. Whenever my grandparents show me photos of his sons, and call them my cousins, I tell them I have no cousins. And I have recieved a lot of pressure from my grandparents, namely my grandmother, and my aunts who are trying to 'help' me forgive, but in fact it feels like their pressuring me. And for all this time, my mom has been on my side on this matter and she refuses to accept them as family. But even she has started to forgive my uncle, but I just can't. I don't have many people I trust that I can ask for advice from, but I figure a third party would be better. I don't know, I just want to know if I'm not being a stubborn ass about all of this.