Real talk? I've had some people make some pretty absurd statements about my character behind my back here on Iwaku. Thankfully I've been getting some of it cleared up, but unfortunately, I've been subject to rumours as wide and wild as being incapable of feeling emotions, to being openly violent and cruel.
In my past? I was threatened to be accused of rape by a crazy chick in high school. The story behind that is there was this one woman who looked sad and lonely, so I tried to make her feel better. She reacted by immediately latching to my arm. Being as emotionally insecure as I was, I tried to take things slowly so I could develop things over time and figure out who she was. (Seriously she tried to make out with me the same day I was kind to her. I wasn't comfortable with that. I take time to get to know people before I start to really care like that.) As a result, she started sending me texts threatening that she would commit suicide. Over 500 messages threatening suicide later (no, really) she threatened that she would fake a rape accusation about me.
Thankfully, I wasn't the only guy she was doing this to, so she targeted someone else and cried out rape. That guy was terminated from his workplace. As far as I'm aware, it never actually went to court, but the mere accusation was enough to destroy his relationship with his employer.
It's why I tend to be so skeptical and cautious toward the "listen and believe" crowd. Listen and believe who, exactly? The victim? Do you know who the victim is? Where's your evidence? What the hell do you mean I'm an asshole for asking for evidence for a capital offense that can ruin someone's entire life?
It's called the prosecution and the defense, not the perpetrator and the victim. Get that through your fucking skulls. Why the hell do you want to bring back the dark ages of witch hunts? All that's going to do is further the divide between men and women, by making one group absolutely terrified of the other's ability to instantly ruin their lives with a fucking catch phrase.
I'm all for empathy. If someone's in obvious suffering, help them. That's why we have shelters, that's why we should continue supporting and expanding shelter networks. Shelters don't ask questions (or at least they shouldn't), because the only thing they're doing is providing an out for people who need it.
It's the criminal court system that needs to neither believe nor disbelieve your claims; merely verify. As for how fair or unfair it is? Someone could slit my throat tomorrow in order to steal my wallet and the ten bucks of change I keep in it. Unless his DNA is already in a criminal database, or there's a witness to see it, the likelihood he's ever going to be caught for that crime is pretty much zero. All they'll have is the cadaver that can't speak.
Life isn't fair.
Get over that and start thinking of solutions to problems like this without resorting to destroying the very fabric of our justice system. Thanks.