Does it matter to you how many sexual encounters a (potential) partner has had before you?

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Now the questions is: Do you guys calling promiscuous women sluts hold the same stand for yourselves and other men? What if a woman said she didn't want you because she didn't want a dick that was stuck in to anything and everything?


And what if a woman was very promiscuous and had a ton of partners, but has decided she now wants a serious relationship and something with more meaning? o__o Is she forever labeled a tainted slut because of her sexual history? Not worth a serious relationship because she went too far?
 
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Diana said:
Now the questions is: Do you guys calling promiscuous women sluts hold the same stand for yourselves and other men? What if a woman said she didn't want you because she didn't want a dick that was stuck in to anything and everything?


And what if a woman was very promiscuous and had a ton of partners, but has decided she now wants a serious relationship and something with more meaning? o__o Is she forever labeled a tainted slut because of her sexual history? Not worth a serious relationship because she went too far?
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It's a natural trait for men to be promiscuous? Were built for it?

If she suddenly goes from town bicycle to wanting something serious then people aren't going to immediately take her seriously. That's all about reputations and stuff. Which is probably a whole other discussion.

Edit: yes there is a certain stigma involved with promiscuous men I've noticed before though it could be isolated. Other men see him as a threat to their own chances and may ostracize him or 'cock block' him.
 
Diana said:
Now the questions is: Do you guys calling promiscuous women sluts hold the same stand for yourselves and other men? What if a woman said she didn't want you because she didn't want a dick that was stuck in to anything and everything?


And what if a woman was very promiscuous and had a ton of partners, but has decided she now wants a serious relationship and something with more meaning? o__o Is she forever labeled a tainted slut because of her sexual history? Not worth a serious relationship because she went too far?
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Please don't ruin my thread, we all know where this is going and I don't have the tag for it.
 
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I'm going to ignore that @Diana since Kestrel didn't make a debate thread. Also, I don't recall calling anyone a slut so don't stick words in my mouth.

Thank you @Kestrel. Sorry to hear that it didn't turn out so swell for ya. Honestly, sexual experience is just one piece of the giant clusterfuck known as relationships so I'd really need more information to make an educated decision. If a girl drops her panties on a dime though, usually that signals much larger issues both psychologically and (sometimes) physically.
 
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Something something key opens many locks something something lock for any key something something.

It's a natural trait for men to be promiscuous? Were built for it?

If she suddenly goes from town bicycle to wanting something serious then people aren't going to immediately take her seriously. That's all about reputations and stuff. Which is probably a whole other discussion.
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The problem is that we're PEOPLE not objects. o___o Holding women to a double standard like that is a load of crap. Men aren't built to go around fucking lots of people any more often than women are. Women are just as sexual and have the same needs as men.

They deserve the right to have sex when and how they pleased without being called a slut, while a guy goes around saying "Oh I'd take her as a one night stand, but not as a relationship." as if it's okay for guys to sleep around like that but they are still okay for serious relationships. -POINTS AT @Cowboy!-



As for reputations, the same argument still applies. You're going to judge a woman for sleeping around, but not a man and that's not cool >:/


EDIT: FINE I'LL DROP IT NOW. D:<
 
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You people who care about how much sex a partner has had before you sound like the sort of people who aren't okay with their partner using a sex toy.
 
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Windsong said:
Something something key opens many locks something something lock for any key something something.

It's a natural trait for men to be promiscuous? Were built for it?

If she suddenly goes from town bicycle to wanting something serious then people aren't going to immediately take her seriously. That's all about reputations and stuff. Which is probably a whole other discussion.

Edit: yes there is a certain stigma involved with promiscuous men I've noticed before though it could be isolated. Other men see him as a threat to their own chances and may ostracize him or 'cock block' him.
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Ouch.
 
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Dang it, @Diana you're not supposed to respond and then not let me reply back ;-;

It was a joke. But from a biological (read; NOT CULTURAL NEW AGE SHIT) men can spread their DNA (see; last 30 seconds of any porn) quite rapidly.

The same does go for a guy as well. Girls aren't going to (when in the right state of mind) want a guy who's obviously a player. It's a reputation thing again, just a different coin.
 
I guess it would worry me a little if someone had a really large number of partners before me, but mostly because sex is a very sentimental and emotional thing for me, I need some kind of emotional connection to someone to want to sleep with them, so if my partner was really into more casual sexual encounters it could be a conflict causing disparity, it might also indicate that their sex drive is waaaaay higher than mine (which is low to start with) which leads to a lot of dissatisfaction on their end and guilt on mine.
 
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I guess it would worry me a little if someone had a really large number of partners before me, but mostly because sex is a very sentimental and emotional thing for me, I need some kind of emotional connection to someone to want to sleep with them, so if my partner was really into more casual sexual encounters it could be a conflict causing disparity, it might also indicate that their sex drive is waaaaay higher than mine (which is low to start with) which leads to a lot of dissatisfaction on their end and guilt on mine.
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FUCKING. THIS. RIGHT HERE.
 
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Minibit said:
I guess it would worry me a little if someone had a really large number of partners before me, but mostly because sex is a very sentimental and emotional thing for me, I need some kind of emotional connection to someone to want to sleep with them, so if my partner was really into more casual sexual encounters it could be a conflict causing disparity, it might also indicate that their sex drive is waaaaay higher than mine (which is low to start with) which leads to a lot of dissatisfaction on their end and guilt on mine.
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I can appreciate that you aren't all "ugh that lessens their worth as a partner." just "man maybe that's not for me we might have different expectations."

That's a valid reason.
 
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Just out of curiosity:
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If a girl drops her panties on a dime though, usually that signals much larger issues both psychologically and (sometimes) physically.
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Same would apply to a guy who 'drops his pants on a dime', no?

Windsong said:
It was a joke. But from a biological (read; NOT CULTURAL NEW AGE SHIT) men can spread their DNA (see; last 30 seconds of any porn) quite rapidly.
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Wondering if this has anything to do with intimacy or blissful moments?
 
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Guys. Guys. There are posts I agree and disagree with in this thread as well, but the purpose of this thread is to understand the different views people have. Try not to have it at each other in here. If you absolutely must, you are welcome to take it to the PM or make your own threads.
 
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*Diana starts a debate*
*Diana tries to end it before it starts*
*It starts anyways*

Starting a debate... Not even once.
 
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Last post since I didn't realize having standards is such an ostracized thing.

A girl has every right to act like a female Genghis Khan. I also have every right not to date her. Relationships are a bit of a big deal to me. I'm not going to be guilted into dating someone who I'm not attracted to out of political correctness.

It's like how I would also never date someone morbidly obese. Sorry, I workout every other day to get my body and I don't eat pure crap. If you don't respect your body as well, I'm not interested.

It sounds terribly shallow, but I like dating girls that I can be proud to call my girlfriend. If I would have a moral dilemma introducing her to my mom, chances are it isn't going to happen.

To all the people saying you can't judge someone by their past, that's the only thing that is real. I don't judge by words, I judge by actions. If you've truly changed, show me and I'll believe it. But talk is cheap.

One thing I'll finish my post with though is that I only judge people by standards I use to judge myself. If you want to argue any of what I said, feel free to inbox me but that's my spiel. Just don't poop up Kestrel's thread or passive aggressively rate my posts since I'm entitled to my opinion as well and I'll explain any of my points in PM.
 
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govangogh said:
.... you kind of sound like you are holding men and women to different standards, though. Which isn't really cool. :/
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Because men and women are inherently different on a vast number of levels. There are differences.

That's that.

I've said my part so I'm thinking this is the part where I bow out before an admin comes in, tells everyone to shut up, and locks the thread.

Edit: couldn't agree with @Cowboy anymore.
 
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