Today my daughter handed me a note because she couldn't tell me what she wanted to say in person around my two youngest daughters. In the note she claimed that she wants to go through gender reassignment to become a male. She doesn't want to be referred to as she any longer, and wants to change her name (Yes, I know, I'm calling her she. I can't help it though!) She claims that she's uncomfortable as a girl, and would prefer to be a boy. I listened to her reasoning, and while I don't really mind that she wants to make the change, I don't believe it she's really thought everything through. I didn't yell or get angry. I didn't say she couldn't go through with it. I didn't even say I didn't want her to go through with it. I honestly didn't, and still don't know what to say. Before people jump to conclusions, I'm really not against it, but I do think that she's too young to make this type of decision. I won't lie and say that a huge part of me wants to say no, not because of the change itself, but because of what I know she'll go through. Truthfully, I do not see her identifying as a boy. I cannot explain why exactly, but I just can't. It's not me being blind to something, there's just no signs there at all. She doesn't show interest in 'boy things' in fact, she's annoyed by men for the most part. I asked if she was attracted to girls, but she claims that she's not, so I know that's not it. I can't figure it out! I've tried searching for something to give me clues as to why she feels this is what she wants, but I don't see anything there. There was no playing with cars instead of Barbies. No, wanting to watch football or play sports. There is nothing there that says she identifies with males at all, which is where I'm running into a problem. I'm trying to be as open minded as I can, but my instincts tell me that this is just a phase she's going through. It came out of left field, and I have no idea what the hell I should do. My husband didn't make things any better either. When he talked to her, he outright refused to acknowledge it as a possibility, and in a way I understand why, but it didn't do anything to help out the situation. I'm seriously struggling with this though. I don't want to trivialize it with my assumptions, and I'm trying desperately to understand it. Things just aren't adding up to me. I always thought that people who were transgender felt out of place in their bodies early on, and showed signs of it at younger ages. Maybe I'm wrong. I really don't know. How do I know it's not just curiosity? How can I be sure that later on down the road she won't change her mind? Like I said, everything in me says that this is just a phase she's going through. I don't want to say it's a cry for attention, but it's a cry for something. She won't talk to me about it. She won't speak to my husband at all right now. I thought of trying to find her someone to talk to, but I wouldn't even know where to start. @_@ Can anyone please help?