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Kitti
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Depending on what resource you read, there are usually said to be between 3 and 6 "levels" of conversation. What is in each level can vary here and there. I chose to list these out in 4 levels as it's the system that I saw that resonated best with my perception.
1: Superficial
Talking about weather, superficial form answers (how old are you? what do you work as? when is your birthday?)
This is the least invested level. You probably have this conversation with strangers.
2: Preferences
This introduces personal feelings that flesh out what would be more superficial answers. Things like "what is your favorite [--]?" and "what do you like most about [--]?" reside here.
3: Feeling + memory
How you're feeling right now, what you're thinking about, what is going on with you. Also important memories and experiences. Questions like "what do you think about me?", "what is your most embarrassing memory?", and "what's the matter?" tend to fall under this category. Answers here tend to be more vulnerable than the previous levels.
4: Core
These are topics that form the core of your beliefs and values. Political and religious ideals, fears, and dreams can all fall here, but don't have to. This category encompasses whatever falls under the umbrella of core beliefs. For many, this level is sensitive and can be hard to discuss even in friendly relationships.
What are core topics for you?
Who do you feel comfortable discussing these topics with?
What do you think about these levels?
1: Superficial
Talking about weather, superficial form answers (how old are you? what do you work as? when is your birthday?)
This is the least invested level. You probably have this conversation with strangers.
2: Preferences
This introduces personal feelings that flesh out what would be more superficial answers. Things like "what is your favorite [--]?" and "what do you like most about [--]?" reside here.
3: Feeling + memory
How you're feeling right now, what you're thinking about, what is going on with you. Also important memories and experiences. Questions like "what do you think about me?", "what is your most embarrassing memory?", and "what's the matter?" tend to fall under this category. Answers here tend to be more vulnerable than the previous levels.
4: Core
These are topics that form the core of your beliefs and values. Political and religious ideals, fears, and dreams can all fall here, but don't have to. This category encompasses whatever falls under the umbrella of core beliefs. For many, this level is sensitive and can be hard to discuss even in friendly relationships.
What are core topics for you?
Who do you feel comfortable discussing these topics with?
What do you think about these levels?