Are you a boy? Or are you a girl?


Professor Crane

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well, I'm a guy, but by definitions being given by everyone else I really don't even register. I have an obsession with philosophy, classic literature, story lines, beauty, comic books, paintings, classical music. I hate cars, working out, shopping, cooking, and sitting still.

So yeah, none of that really registers as either I think, so I just kind of, exist.

King Weavel

The Burger King
Fantasy, sci-fi, post apocalyptic, parody.
Man, 100%. Fashion bores me. But I don't consider cooking a feminine trait. Most men in my family do cook anyhow, even my tough guy uncle! It's just a good decision to learn how to cook. So you aren't limited to fast food or microwave dinners. Also, you aren't depending on SOMEONE else to make for ya that way. Really isn't manly to be dependent on your mom or a spouse to make your dinner. :P


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I like fighting, war movies, explosions, power tools, meat, football, books about war, putting my feet on a table, and cuban cigars.

But I do enjoy the softer aspects of life and culture. I like romantic movies, going to the theater, the opera, I like nights on the town with dancing and dinner. I enjoy philosophy, discussing religion and literature, and I really do like to shop (so long as it's productive shopping). I write, I cook, I read poetry, I enjoy Shakespeare.

Really though, none of that defines you as a man or woman. The only thing that does that is how you define yourself. You can be, physically, a man, but very much feminine, and vice versa. It's all about self perception.


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Do you think that the way you were raised had anything to do with your self-perception of your gender, or do you think it's inherent?


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There's evidence enough to prove both ideas hold water, and I think both ideas do have an impact with varying degrees, dependent entirely upon the individual and their unique circumstances.

Personally, I had a father who was of the stern variety. If I fell, I was to stand up on my own. If I started crying, I needed to stop. If someone picked on me, I needed to handle it or get picked on more. Additionally, my father was abusive until my early teens. I suppose all of those things contributed to the more 'rugged' masculine qualities I ended up developing: stubborn self-reliance, a fascination with violence, etc..

My mother was the doting type, always coddling me and telling me to pursue those inner passions. My father wanted me to do sports, of course, so I was taught Muay Thai from a young age. My mother wanted me to get into arts, music, and so on, so from as early as I can remember, I was doing musicals and school plays. So while my father instilled within me those "Men Don't Cry" values, my mother instilled me the desire to passionately pursue things that I love.

Finally, I never saw myself other than a boy. I knew I was a male, and I liked females from an early age (and passionately). I was always the romantic type, even into high school when I was writing secret admirer notes for this girl named Katie...

Anywho, there's my rather long-winded answer, Kitty.

Karsikan the Berzerker

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I never really know my father, and my mother was always gone working or dating some random guy of the month, so I've pretty much been left to fend for myself. She also had this strange desire to suddenly snatch all my shit if my grades weren't good enough (Which anything less than Straight A's were) and didn't know how to give it back. She's probably at least half the reason I'm as fucked in the head as I am, Can't trust anyone, very possessive and territorial, and I have what the doctors call an overdeveloped Reptile Brain.

In short I am a creature of instinct, so never had that gender confusion issue.


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Well of course Raz is all that is man. That was never in question, dear.
Seiji... KittI. Interesting take on things, though, and I rather agree. I believe, down to my personality, that I got along better with boys, which is why when I had a choice, my best friend was the male twin. However, I also think it was how I grew up. We didn't have money for girly things often and my primary male figure was my grandpa, who was a powerful bear of a man that had worked on oil rigs in his youth and couldn't deal at all with little girl crying. And he was one of my favorite people in the world. So, I tried to be like him.

Kar, was there never even any embracing of the yang to the yin of yourself?


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hmm what a strange topic.
well I guess sense this is the internet there is no danger of public humiliation if i get this of my chest.
in 8th grade I found out about sex-changes and for some reason began to fantasize about what it would be like to be a girl. it creeped me out that I couldn't get the thought out of my head. there was a year there in hight school where I tried a few things to try and find my identity and by late in my 11 grade year I finally decided that I wasn't gay, I didn't really want to be a girl, and fantasizing about the possibility was probably a heath party of figuring myself out. so for now I'm convened that my hunger for knowledge is driving the curiosity.
I'm a guy, and exhibit very few traits that are generally linked with being female. I fairly confident that they will go away with time


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Personally, I had a father who was of the stern variety. If I fell, I was to stand up on my own. If I started crying, I needed to stop. If someone picked on me, I needed to handle it or get picked on more.

This is me but with my whole family. There is no such thing as real weakness in my family, there are flaws you work on to improve, but anything that could be considered a weakness is eventually exercised out of you. You learned how to handle every situation that was thrown at you or have one of your siblings take the lime light. Life in my family was a contest and to be honest I wouldn't have had it any other way. Taught me how to be smart, tactical, and strong. But even with all that survival of the fittest BS we were still a family. You could cry with one another, depend on each other, and there was never a moment that I doubted how much they loved me. When you go through so much with each other you get a tight bond, but that also makes us pretty insular. Issues are kept within the family, if you want to know you have to be considered one of us first.


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In modern terms, I am...

I'm a modern man,
A man for the millennium,
Digital and smoke free.
A diversified multicultural postmodern deconstructionist,
Politically anatomically and ecologically incorrect.
I've been uplinked and downloaded.
I've been inputted and outsourced.
I know the upside of downsizing.
I know the downside of upgrading.
I'm a high tech lowlife.
A cutting edge state-of-the-art bicoastal multitasker,
And I can give you a gigabyte in a nanosecond.
I'm new wave but I'm old school,
And my inner child is outward bound.
I'm a hot wired heat seeking warm hearted cool customer,
Voice activated and biodegradable.
I interface from a database,
And my database is in cyberspace,
So I'm interactive,
I'm hyperactive,
And from time-to-time,
I'm radioactive.
Behind the eight ball,
Ahead of the curve,
Riding the wave,
Dodging a bullet,
Pushing the envelope.
I'm on point,
On task,
On message,
And off drugs.
I got no need for coke and speed,
I got no urge to binge and purge.
I'm in the moment,
On the edge,
Over the top,
But under the radar.
A high concept,
Low profile,
Medium range ballistic missionary.
A street-wise smart bomb.
A top gun bottom feeder.
I wear power ties,
I tell power lies,
I take power naps,
I run victory laps.
I'm a totally ongoing bigfoot slam dunk rainmaker with a proactive outreach.
A raging workaholic.
A working ragaholic.
Out of rehab,
And in denial.
I got a personal trainer,
A personal shopper,
A personal assistant,
And a personal agenda.
You can't shut me up,
You can't dumb me down.
'Cause I'm tireless,
And I'm wireless.
I'm an alpha male on beta blockers.
I'm a non-believer and an over-achiever.
Laid back but fashion forward.
Up front,
Down home,
Low rent,
High maintenance.
Super size,
Long lasting,
High definition,
Fast acting,
Oven ready,
And built to last.
I'm a hands on,
Foot loose,
Knee jerk,
Head case.
Prematurely post traumatic,
And I have a love child who sends me hate mail.
But I'm feeling,
I'm caring,
I'm healing,
I'm sharing.
A supportive bonding nurturing primary care giver.
My output is down,
But my income is up.
I take a short position on the long bond,
And my revenue stream has its own cash flow.
I read junk mail,
I eat junk food,
I buy junk bonds,
I watch trash sports.
I'm gender specific,
Capital intensive,
User friendly,
And lactose intolerant.
I like rough sex.
I like rough sex.
I like tough love.
I use the f word in my email,
And the software on my hard drive is hard core, no soft porn.
I bought a microwave at a mini mall.
I bought a mini van in a mega store.
I eat fast food in the slow lane.
I'm toll free,
Bite sized,
Ready to wear,
And I come in all sizes.
A fully equipped,
Factory authorized,
Hospital tested,
Clinically proven,
Scientifically formulated medical miracle.
I've been pre-washed,
And I have an unlimited broadband capacity.
I'm a rude dude,
But I'm the real deal.
Lean and mean.
Cocked, locked and ready to rock.
Rough tough and hard to bluff.
I take it slow.
I go with the flow.
I ride with the tide.
I got glide in my stride.
Drivin' and movin',
Sailin' and spinnin',
Jivin' and groovin',
Wailin' and winnin'.
I don't snooze,
So I don't lose.
I keep the pedal to the metal,
And the rubber on the road.
I party hearty,
And lunch time is crunch time.
I'm hanging in,
There ain't no doubt.
And I'm hanging tough,
Over and out.

In terms overall you could associate me with the male philosophers of ancient Greece. Their job was to stride around and use that noodle to think about things. So world terms I am male.

Tuxedo Mask

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Well I am most definitely a dude, but I like doing some girl activities like talking, or fashion stuff. I do like to dress to impress. Not a huge fan of sports n would much rather talk or do something not strenuous with girls then I would doing a physical activity ( like sports) with guys. Don't get me wrong though, girls are like super attractive. You know with being girls and all.