Abusive Roleplay Partners

What to do with an abusive roleplay partner.

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    Abusive roleplay partners.

    This resource covers what to do if you find yourself with an abusive roleplay partner. The process is fairly simple, although we understand that it can sometimes be difficult if you’ve been in an RP with them for quite some time or know the individual on a more personal level. It is important to understand that being abusive to anyone on the forums is not something that we tolerate for any reason, and so there are policies and rules in place to discourage such situations from happening and to assist members in dealing with abusive situations.

    Where we stand on abuse.

    As I mentioned before, Iwaku does not tolerate abuse for any reason, so much so that we have rules and policies in place to ensure this kind of behavior doesn't happen and if it does, it doesn't continue. Contained within the site policies you'll find applicable rules under the 'Community Behavior' section. For convenience and to ensure you're getting the appropriate information from this resource I'll pick out the rules for you and explain the relevance to an abusive situation.

    So as it states above everyone has the freedom to project their opinion, as long as that opinion serves a purpose and doesn't intend to provoke or cause harm to someone else. An abusive partner does 'not' have the right to speak to you or treat you as they please.

    This is one of the main rules that combats against abuse, and it's important to know and understand that you are not obligated to put up with such behavior at all. We do recommend that you use the ignore feature if they continue to behave negatively towards you. We take Harassment very seriously and if ignoring the individual doesn't work, then you should report the individual to the staff.

    A lot of the time, confrontations in PM roleplays and thread roleplays can lead to people deleting their posts. Do not to do this, regardless of what has happened in the OOC. Simply leaving the RP, should that be your desire is the best course of action to take.

    What to do with an abusive roleplay partner.

    Firstly if your partner is being abusive, simply tell them to stop. If they proceed to be abusive and continue to behave negatively towards you, simply stop talking to them. If they refuse to accept that response then you should make use of the ignore feature. If that doesn't resolve your issue then you should send in a report to the staff whom will then assist the situation. You can find a Resource guide on how to report and ignore a member Here.

    What 'not' to do with an abusive roleplay partner.

    Do not feel that you're obligated to take the abuse and pretend like everything is ok. Iwaku is here for the enjoyment of everyone and people who abuse others go directly against the kind of atmosphere we're trying to maintain here. So please don't think to do nothing when confronted with a situation like this. Additionally there could be others that the abuser is abusing who aren't confident enough within themselves to stand up and deal with the issue, so reporting the abuser could actually be helping out other people, also preventing others from suffering the same abuse as you.

    It is very important that when dealing with these types of situations, that you don't add to it by retaliating with insults or negative behavior. By doing so a situation can quickly snowball into something bigger especially if more people become involved, which often leads into you getting yourself into trouble by defending yourself with the same methods they're using to abuse you to begin with. As mentioned before, simply following the appropriate steps will be the best way in dealing with this kind of problem.

    Sometimes people hurt each others feelings and then one of them, or sometimes both of them take the issue to other areas of the forums. We strongly recommend you don't do this, as it falls under what we refer to as 'Airing Dirty Laundry', which basically means discussing a negative situation that occurred between one or more site members. This has the potential to worsen a previous and or existing situation, so it is better to avoid talking about it anywhere on the site or the sites Discord.

    If you have any questions regarding any of this information feel free to contact a staff member. Thank you for reading this resource.