How Does One Not Rely Heavily On Emotion?

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Violette1 said:
It's amazing how you can be happy throughout the day only to break down at night and feel good inside again because there's people who make you feel good about yourself...

If I ever come across these thoughts/emotions relevant to socializing again, I'm going to write it all down. Why do I feel the need to dump out my socializing problems now...?
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Oh, I can definitely relate to that top bit.

And, well, if you feel that venting helps then I suppose venting helps. Do whatever works for you; everyone's wired differently, after all.
 
Violette1 said:
Seriously. How do you not rely heavily on emotion? I mean, is this simply just a teenage phase that I'm going through? That disgusting teenage thing called "puberty" as we know it?

I get frustrated at small things, stuff that's obviously right to me but completely different in another person's eyes, I blame people without sensible rationale because I'm selfish, I let my emotions take over stuff that involves me. Is this because I'm such an introverted individual? Because I don't know how to express my opinions/thoughts without bursting my bubble.

How do you not rely heavily on emotion? I'm tired of doing this, I'm tired of being this way and I want to reach out, to make people understand my point of view instead of them turning me off because I end up chucking out unknown retorts, unintentional hostility, so on and so forth.

Give me a sign. Any sign.
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Well I guess you simply just don't take small stuff so seriously. Just ask yourself this sometimes, is arguing/getting mad over such and such going to get me somewhere or will I remain at the same place in life regardless of the end result? If it gets you somewhere then well...you know, do your thing XD However, if it's something that's not going to get you anywhere, then don't put too much thought in it. Otherwise, you'll wasting be time on something that wasn't really worth it, when you could've been using that time for something that you would enjoy doing.
 
Thanks guys (just woke up so this may seem like I don't have a lot of emotion)
 
The last thing you want to do is to try to ignore/dismiss one's emotions/feelings.

I made that mistake when I was younger, got stung rather hard for acting emotionally so as a defense mechanism I adopted a "Logic > Emotion" philosophy of "Emotion is weak and unreliable, Logic is strong and consistent".
But doing such a thing I later discovered over the next several years has one very big flaw. You're emotions and feelings never do go away, they simply get buried and bottle up. They continue to stack on top of one another, and by being neglected it only causes more pain and suffering, which in turn encourage's one self to ignore it even more and very quickly creates a snowball effect.

You do not want to fall for that snowball effect.

That being said though, it's important to remember that emotion is a double edged sword. On one end it can be the source of great happiness, joy and motivation, while on the other hand it can cause great pain, grief and lead to a lack of sound judgement. But it's a double edged sword that be wielded well if one knows how to. Mainly by doing a few things.
  1. Don't invest too strong emotions into something negative. To be a little Whoovian for a moment "Hate is too strong an emotion to invest in those you don't like".
  2. When you are experiencing negative emotions, talk about it, may it be with your therapist or friends and family that you trust.
  3. Remember to keep sight on the positive. The people you get along with, what makes you happy etc.
Try to remember those things and what everyone else has told you already, and you should already have a decent start on being happier in life.
 
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Violette1 said:
Seriously. How do you not rely heavily on emotion? I mean, is this simply just a teenage phase that I'm going through? That disgusting teenage thing called "puberty" as we know it?

I get frustrated at small things, stuff that's obviously right to me but completely different in another person's eyes, I blame people without sensible rationale because I'm selfish, I let my emotions take over stuff that involves me. Is this because I'm such an introverted individual? Because I don't know how to express my opinions/thoughts without bursting my bubble.

How do you not rely heavily on emotion? I'm tired of doing this, I'm tired of being this way and I want to reach out, to make people understand my point of view instead of them turning me off because I end up chucking out unknown retorts, unintentional hostility, so on and so forth.

Give me a sign. Any sign.
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Because being overly emotional in my job and in my hobbies tends to lead to fatalities and physical injury.

If let my emotions overrule my judgement, I may make a bad call during a life or death situation and get someone killed.

If I let my emotions grapple me with fear, then I will never achieve the technique and skill I want in Parkour and martial arts.

So I just ignore it and let calculation and logic see me through.
 
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:< And she's gone.

Oh well, I hope she got something out of this thread.
 
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